Credit where it's due, Fels wrote a really good essay today on Committed Indian to kind of walk things back a little bit and try to calm things down. I appreciate the call to sanity.
Not related to that, but I want to go back to stuff JORR posted a couple days ago, or in other words, twenty pages of this thread ago:
Joe Orr Road Rod wrote:
And we have an entire generation of women being taught that they have no responsibility for their actions. I'm not "victim blaming" or talking about wearing short skirts. I'm talking about college girls getting fucked up and not remembering what they consented to do with a fucked up guy.
Have you seen this story?:
http://depauliaonline.com/news/2015/09/ ... f-conduct/We have a recovered memory.
"In the three months between the time of the rape and the time of the hearing, Anderson remembered more of what happened that night." It's an absolute fact that even clear sober memories moments after an incident are less than reliable, but she's now absolutely certain that she was raped after talking to her friends and her therapist.
And it's all about trying to shift responsibility. Look at the spin in this article:
"She felt uncomfortable and took shots of gin, tequila and whiskey out of a votive candle holder. Anderson was handed these drinks by another guest at the party."I really hate how it's verboten to address the role of alcohol in sexual assault. Emily Yoffe got into deep shit for this a couple years ago when she wrote a column saying that girls shouldn't drink till they pass out lest they greatly endanger themselves. This is pretty sensible, but it got the daddy's-girl contingent of the social justice left up in arms because they have the right to get piss-drunk at parties and it's fun and instead of shaming girls out of drinking, we should be "teaching men not to rape." A note on the last part in a sec, but what about saying that guys shouldn't be getting shitfaced either? Why can't we say that? While there are, of course, sober rapists, drugging rapists, or rapists who pace themselves while the girl drinks like a fish, I would be willing to wager that overconsumption plays just as much a part on the man's side. This is what a culture that's never been able to properly reckon with alcohol has wrought: making it a forbidden fruit that has to be "enjoyed" to excess the first chance people get. Unfortunately, we're probably too far gone to do anything about the big picture now, but in lieu of swiftly developing a healthy attitude toward drinking in this country, I don't see the harm in telling guys not to drink to the point that their worst violent impulses will arise, nor with telling girls not to drink to the point that they will make themselves vulnerable to said impulses. Will this solve every rape everywhere? Of course not, but I don't see how it isn't a step in the right direction. This whole mess we're in was born of a guy growing up in a subculture of rampant drug and alcohol abuse. I don't believe that incapacitating oneself is an inalienable human right. If that makes me a bad liberal, so be it.
A note on Teaching Boys Not To Rape: I honestly do not get it. I was under the impression that if you have a mother, a sister, or just aren't a fucking idiot, you are taught what the concept of consent is. Relative to other concepts, such as, I dunno, gravity, the idea of "don't do that" has never struck me as one that's hard to grasp, or one that goes ungrasped. Back when there was that big webcomic about sexual consent being like serving tea, everyone was in love with it, but I didn't care for it. I don't think the issue has ever been guys not knowing what consent is. It's guys not caring. I know, filed away in my head, lots of things that are wrong, like lying, or speeding, or using Soulseek. Sometimes I do them anyway because I don't care. So it goes with rape, I suspect. Every man who has had a woman absolutely anywhere in his life knows not to rape. When they do, it's because at that moment, they don't care. Sometimes because they've had too much to drink.
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