My fiance talks to her "Dad" maybe twice a year. There's nothing coming from him. Her Mom doesn't have much money, so we're paying for 90% of the wedding...and we're doing what we want (with the exception of saying fuck it all and going to Vegas).

Looks like I should have discussed Rah's family financials and expected dowry before I fell in love with her. Shame on me.

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if I get invited you'll get a nice envelope.




Won't be nothing in it but it will be a nice envelope.

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If I ever get married again, I'm going to have doves released after the ceremony, one for each guest. Then at dinner, I am going to serve squab.

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My wife and I paid in full for our wedding, as well, to secure those precious final decision-making rights. My folks hosted the after-practice picnic which we funded, and her dad demanded to foot the bar tab (which nearly causes him to shit a kitten- 5+ kegs etc) . Made the call to extend the band by an hour really easy. My Bride was frugal then, sewing the bridesmaid dresses herself, and had a friend who insisted on making the cake for costs. No slideshows, just Yaeger shots.

Dope.

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"Play until it hurts, then play until it hurts to not play."
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I'm glad you can admit that you're an idiot.

We are paying for at least 75% of ours. My parents are giving us about 1/4 of what the hall will cost, her Dad is paying for the church and flowers, her Mom paid for her dress and that is it. The cost of the shower was supposed to be split. Its now looking like we will have to foot the bill for that too. On everything except the latter, I knew this was going to be the case when I bought the ring.


Call me a bad parent if you want Mr know-it-all Panther, but if/when I have a daughter, for the first 18 years of her life I will be setting up savings for her to go to college, or a trust fund, or life insurance, or any other number of things that actually matter in the long run instead of blowing it all on one night that half the attendees are going to be too drunk to remember anyway. Those are actually good, moral thoughts to stand behind.

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When I got married, they had yet to invent the slideshow.

We just hired a series of actors to portray us on stage depicting pivotal developmental moments in our lives.

And it won a Tony Award.

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I am not getting married, but would take any money you are tossing around.

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Takeaway Gifts

See Im all about the future.

Ill be asking for .gifs in lieu of gifts

are you R. Kelly ?

Weddings and college are great ways to pass on inheritance in a tax free manner. If you think you'll have enough money to provide your kids even a decent inheritance you should probably pay for both.

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

Why would you not if they were giving it away?

My parents paid for ours. I'm glad they did, we would not have had a reception otherwise. My mom and I disagreed on some things but that's normal. I have great memories of planning, shopping, learning, and compromising. It was a great experience for all of us. It was awesome.

Doesn't matter if it's at a VFW or any of the best hotels/museums/venues downtown or what day it is. If you love the couple and they are in love it's a good wedding. Let me know and I'd be there, nothing is more important or fun than celebrating with the people you love. I have trouble with destination weddings at times though.

Probably personal preference. I could afford to do it the way we wanted. I was 27 years old. It didn't feel right to me to take someone else's money. I really dislike the idea of owing somebody and I consider that too big of an outlay to be considered a "gift".

I'm glad you enjoyed your planning. That sounds like a nightmare to me that I'd gladly pay some $$ to avoid. But, I'm a dude.

(By the way, my original post made it sound like I was running from my parents at 18. Not so. Dr. Ken Sr. and Mrs. Dr. Ken Sr. were great folks.)

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Dr. Ken,
Did your parents pay for your Quinceanera?

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

His parents had already bought the island the wedding took place on.

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My first wedding was $54 a plate and 200 people. Her parents paid for half, and mine cashed out a whole life policy (of mine). Thanks Mom & Dad!

My 2nd wedding will be $100 a plate and 100 people. Mom and Dad aren't interested this time and have actually encouraged eloping. Thanks Mom & Dad!

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We were 24 and had no money. Now we are 36 and have no money. We wouldn't have had enough at 27 and I wouldn't have spent that much of our dough on a party. No problem spending my parents money. I'm glad your not poor.

Next time I'm getting married in space.

Soldier Field - in that area between the WR and the corner.

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I don't begrudge anybody doing it anyway they want. (Are we still talking about weddings?)

I was just sharing, in theory.

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I'm not mad about it. I don't really care. Just wanted to respond to you because there are lots of jerkoffs in this thread. I like talking to you, noisy.

OK, J'Marcus.

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Spaulding nation! I'm a better blocker and don't eat as much as he does.

HA, like she would be talking about me.

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My parents paid for the bar and my in laws paid for the hall and dinner. We had Padrinos pay for the cake, invitations etc. We banked the cash and used it as down payment for our house.

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My wedding night was made especially memorable since my next-door neighbor was robbed and murdered about an hour before we arrived home. Wake up the next day to crime-scene tape and law enforcement everywhere. Detective knocks on my door and inevitably asks "can anyone account for you whereabouts last night?" to which I reply "yeah, about 250 people, I got married last night." He goes, "oh...congratulations."

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You're the guy who gets interviewed first in all the TV Police Dramas. It always comes back to that first guy.

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favrefan said:"Chris Coghlan isn't gonna pay your rent, Jimmy."

I don't really care about this whole conversation but second weddings are a completely different situation.

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Owing your parents? If they did it right, you will never be able to repay what you owe them so might as well just add to the tab.

Do people really look at the things you do and have done for you in a family setting as owing or being owed?

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