rogers park bryan wrote:
T-Bone wrote:
After a very hard and trying summer I gave my 20 yr old stepdaughter the final ultimatum and told her she needed to move out of my basement
by next Sunday. My wife had asked me to stay out of it and not to rock the boat and it has made me physically sick to see how she
treats us and our house. I only held out as long as I did out of love for my wife. Three months is my limit and I am taking my life
and house back. I only hope she packs up and leaves quietly.
Damn.
If you want to get into it....what is her issue?
I am not really sure where to start. This is a girl who lost all of her academic scholarships and essentially left her first year of college on
academic probation. She stayed in that college town and worked part time and went to community college. Her mother invited her to come
home to live rent and utility free and we would pay for her food so she could get on her feet financially and mentally. She has a lot of issues
that she needs to deal with and her dad's insurance pays for counseling. She moved back mid-June and proceeded not to work at all for the
first 6 weeks she was with us, instead going out every night. She sleeps until noon and stays up until early in the morning every day. She
had a job for 2 days and quit, because it was too hard. She has been working very part time at the local Nike Outlet store for the past 6 weeks
maybe. I'm talking like maybe 15-20 hours a week max. Problem with working there is that she has purchased 6 pair of new shoes when she
should be saving her money. Her mother asks about her schedule or where she is going and she says she doesn't have to tell us anything and
she is going to do what she wants when she wants. How I have been able to keep a lid on this I have no idea. On top of dealing with this
juvenile delinquent my brother died this summer and my dad's cancer has reared its ugly head again so now he is in radiation on top of the
chemo treatments. I went to the doctor last week to get a physical because my body literally felt like it was shutting down and I thought I
might be sick with something ( I'm fine ). I decided after going to the doctor that I wasn't going to let this person control my life and my health
and last night was the last straw. I can't control what someone else does or says but I can take back control of what happens in my house. I
let my wife do it the softer and gentler way for 3 months. I will have my house back the way it was in 10 days. I am sure people will have their
two cents and comments here but until you are in the situation it always seems easy on the outside. Again, I love my wife and I didn't want to
cause friction with her relationship with her daughter but I finally had to draw a line in the sand for my own sanity and well being. Just hoping that
it works out that she leaves quietly and moves in with her dad until she figures out her next steps.