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Nas

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:00 pm

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Ugueth Will Shiv You wrote:

Nas wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Ugueth Will Shiv You wrote:

This has been a very eye-opening thread. I appreciate the candor.

You're acting as though we don't feel the same way when the tables are turned. I do. I wouldn't go out to dinner with another woman unless there was an absolutely logical explanation (i.e. work trip with no other option). I would feel like I was disrespecting my wife if I was out gallivanting with another woman while she is at home putting my daughter to sleep and taking care of things.

Completely agree. There is trust and then there is being a complete fucking idiot. You don't have to be a complete fucking idiot to prove that you trust someone.

Oh, I totally agree on both accounts. Don't get me wrong: a big part of all of this is simple mutual respect and common courtesy. That's even before the question of "is this appropriate or not?"

Hell, if I went out with a male friend and didn't at least give my wife the head's up it would be disrespectful.

Agreed.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:00 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

This is a millenial mindset where you live in this utopia that is free from gender and urges and respect (and it doesn't exist). Everyone should love everyone else as much as they do their family and have complete trust and not think for a second that going on a date with someone else is the least bit disrespectful to their spouse.

This is an awful post in basically every way.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:01 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

Who's calling it a date?

I'd say "It's Just Dinner" but that is 99% likely the name of several dating services. But seriously...two friends catching up...dinner or coffee is a usual scenario for that.

Either setting is also a common setting for dates.

It doesn't mean an innocuous friendly dinner is a date.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:01 pm

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FavreFan wrote:

This is an awful post in basically every way.

you and I have been of a like mind an AWFUL lot lately. strange.

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leashyourkids

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:02 pm

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FavreFan wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

This is an awful post in basically every way.

Thank you for your input.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:02 pm

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IMU wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Who's calling it a date?

Leash is, because he realizes how silly it sounds without changing the original scenario.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:03 pm

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IMU wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Who's calling it a date?

I didn't even realize I put date, but now that you mention it... how is it different than a date?

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:03 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

IMU wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Who's calling it a date?

I didn't even realize I put date, but now that you mention it... how is it different than a date?

I think we are entering "this is clearly a bit" territory.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:04 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

IMU wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Who's calling it a date?

I didn't even realize I put date, but now that you mention it... how is it different than a date?

Uh, I don't know....how about the whole "it is two friends getting together and not romantic in the least" part?

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Hatchetman

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:05 pm

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leash is gaslighting us.

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leashyourkids

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:05 pm

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I have to step into a meeting. I'll be back for you two sleazy Millenials in a bit.

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Don Tiny

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:07 pm

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Mods please delete thread.

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TurdFerguson

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:30 pm

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So to flip the question around for the single guys. Go around and start asking the attractive married woman you work or see regularly, and let us know if they see anything strange about it.

Would it make them strange if they said they weren't interested in dinner and drinks with you.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:38 pm

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TurdFerguson wrote:

That's not flipping the question though. It's changing the conversation completely. Your scenario sounds an awful lot like asking someone out on a date. I think most of us in this thread are asking if there's ever a scenario where dinner with the opposite sex is ok. We aren't saying that every scenario where there is dinner with the opposite sex is ok.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:45 pm

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Boilermaker Rick wrote:

Bagels wrote:

Boilermaker Rick wrote:

No matter how much trust you have there is a pretty long list of things you should do your best to avoid while married.

what's your stance on porn

Unacceptable if one on one.

you only like group sex ?

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Brick

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:46 pm

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I appreciate the response but I'll pass.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:47 pm

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i've noticed a lot more people these days claiming to be in 'open' relationships

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Brick

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:48 pm

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Bagels wrote:

i've noticed a lot more people these days claiming to be in 'open' relationships

Now that is trust.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:49 pm

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FavreFan wrote:

TurdFerguson wrote:

Isn't the fact you are coworkers justify going out for a meal?

I have no rule against it, but thinking back I can come up with 3 times I've eaten or drank one on one with a woman and each time it had an awkward feeling.

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Hatchetman

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:50 pm

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Boilermaker Rick wrote:

Bagels wrote:

i've noticed a lot more people these days claiming to be in 'open' relationships

Now that is trust.

that is "don't care"

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:53 pm

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What about a foot massage?

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:54 pm

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Zippy-The-Pinhead wrote:

What about a foot massage?

I got a whole technique down, I don't be tickling or nothing.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:57 pm

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Coworkers don't count in these scenarios. There may be a legit business reason for that.

It has to be a random male or an old friend or something.

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Hockey Gay

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 12:59 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

Coworkers don't count in these scenarios. There may be a legit business reason for that.

It has to be a random male or an old friend or something.

Only for business though because she has to. No hanging out with male coworkers for fun.

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leashyourkids

Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:00 pm

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Hockey Gay wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Coworkers don't count in these scenarios. There may be a legit business reason for that.

It has to be a random male or an old friend or something.

Only for business though because she has to. No hanging out with male coworkers for fun.

Correct.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:01 pm

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leashyourkids wrote:

Coworkers don't count in these scenarios. There may be a legit business reason for that.

It has to be a random male or an old friend or something.

There's a pretty big difference between a random male and an old friend.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:02 pm

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Joe Orr Road Rod wrote:

leashyourkids wrote:

Coworkers don't count in these scenarios. There may be a legit business reason for that.

It has to be a random male or an old friend or something.

There's a pretty big difference between a random male and an old friend.

Yeah, old friends are more likely to try to bring up some historical connection. Random males don't have that card to play.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:03 pm

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It's all about intent, bros.

I could totes hit up the local VFW for some bingo with your grandma, which seems on the level, but she def knows she's getting it.

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:04 pm

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Now it's rape culture!!

http://www.vancouversun.com/news/world/ ... 1490944850

I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!

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Post subject: Re: Eating dinner alone with the opposite sex

Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2017 1:05 pm

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Zippy-The-Pinhead wrote:

What about a foot massage?

you're going out to dinner with Rex Ryan ?

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