Thinking back my relationship w my daughter during her teen years contributed to my hermitage. It sounds like you will soon be joining me cleaning tour boats in a few years.

You are Welcome.

Fixed

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Hermitage, lol.

Boyd, great clarification.

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Hawaii (fuck) You

my 22yo gf is still going through growing pains

i feels you guys

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the world will always the world. your entire existence is defined by your response.

Blow me Cock smoke

No. Your wife does though.

This guy gets it.

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Good people drink good beer - Hunter S. Thompson

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Waiting for the time when I can finally say
That this has all been wonderful, but now I'm on my way

I have a tween, i.e., 11 yrs. old so she's just entering that bitchy phase, though moreso with my wife. If she's in a bitchy mood I find that a couple of drinks loosens her up, something sweet like peach schnapps. We joke that she's just like her daddy in that she has a much better personality when she's drunk.

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Soccer 1,2,3
Spanish Honor Society 1,2,3,4
Forensics 1,2,3,4

"Smiles with Nostrils"

"...no Hmong, go find some blacks"

I have a 3 year old daughter, and I look forward to completely and utterly ignoring her when she hits her teens.

Not my problem.

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To be more serious, My daughter and I get along well for the most part really. We don't talk nearly as much as we did when I was giving her rides to school and sports all the time and we have some conflicts from time to time. That's okay, she is her own person. She has a pretty good head on her shoulders for most part (gets it from her mom) but is of course a teenager with a teenage mindset. I joked with a mom of one of her friends that it's amazing she's not always dizzy. I got a quizzical look and I responded with you'd have to be with the world revolving around you all the time. It's a bad joke but it's something we work in with her.

I make sure we have a few special things we do without her mom or brothers. One of those the last two years has been hawk games. I've found that the 4 hours or so in car is just enough to get her to start talking. And to be honest I aim for the eye rolls. If I'm not getting some of those I'm not giving her a hard enough time in the stupid way I do it. I do think I need to up the nights doing things with her on a one on with all the volleyball and basketball games being basically over. I got a lot of info out of her by bribing her with steak and shake.

G

Not quite what 'pecking at the keyboard' typically means ....

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Power is always in the hands of the masses of men. What oppresses the masses is their own ignorance, their own short-sighted selfishness.
- Henry George

I did predict Gangham Style would be a hit three days before it took off with my then 14 year old stepdaughter -- I got a lot of "how did you know?" reaction.

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"All crowds boycotting football games shouldn't care who sings or takes a knee because they aren't watching." - Nas

I received a crash-course in teenage daughters by inheriting a 13 yr old. Overall, we have a good relationship. but she certainly has her moments. Fortunately, my wife has a pretty logical approach to life and parenting and we've yet to really disagree on how to handle issues with any of our kids. She is now driving and almost 17....good times.

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Stepdaughter moved out last night after a dramatic weekend. Thank you baby Jeebus.

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Flew too close to the sun on wings of pastrami

T-Bone, master of his domain.

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Good people drink good beer - Hunter S. Thompson

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Waiting for the time when I can finally say
That this has all been wonderful, but now I'm on my way

Not to be a dick ,but I would change all the locks and hangs the code on the garage door.

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When I am stuck and need to figure something out I always remember the Immortal words of Socrates when he said:"I just drank what?"

Well sort of. I should have put my foot down long ago. I hope I didn't ruin my wife's relationship with her daughter but all of this
was for the best in the end. Just glad she is gone. This morning I woke up and for the first time in 3 months my side/kidney didn't hurt.
Coincidence? I think not.

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Flew too close to the sun on wings of pastrami

The voodoo doll must not work over long distances. Good call T-Bone!

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Since you have a free room....Mind if I crash for a few weeks?

LOL

How about some pics in this thread?

Now you can sit around in your underwear and eat a block of cheese the size of a car battery.

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This thread title could've just been shortened to "Teenagers"

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glad to hear this.

I have 2 teenage sons of my own, but they're only over part-time. My wife has 2 older kids in addition to the teenage daughter. When we first started dating her middle child was a high school jr. Good kid, but a typically, 17 yr old male. after he graduated HS we had an incident where I snapped and together we decided he needed some time at his Fathers. It was always intended to be temporary....I just had enough of him being disrespectful and unappreciative of his Mom. he was gone a month and asked when he could come back. She politely told HIM that was a conversation for 3 people to have....not two. He asked 2 more times, and she gave him the same answer. After 5 months of his Father's dumpy ass house, no groceries, and overall dead-beat idiocy...he manned up and sat us both down to come home. Everything was drastically better from that point on. He since repeatedly told me I'm more of Father to him than his own Dad. The point of all of this is.....combined households have their bumps, but I've seen some success. If the shit were to hit the fan with my step-daughter, I can confidently say I've done everything I can to make her feel loved and accepted...but at the same time, I'm not putting up with bullshit from her or my own kids....and neither is her Mother. She always has the option of another parent....and THAT she does know is not a good option.

T-bone....I hope things improve for not only your sake, but for your step-daughter's sake as well.

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How did you handle boys? I thought that would be easy because I would be able to relate. My oldest son is probably the biggest brat now and he went from being by far the easiest kid to deal with to being the hardest. Not disrespectful but he does some of the dumbest shit. I can tolerate that somewhat because I did a lot of dumb shit too. The problem is what was once always straight A's turned into regular honor roll and even his first C in a half year. The kid took pride in everything and now just says what he thinks I want to hear. He gives zero fucks. I missed the signs of the transformation. I'm trying a bunch of stuff but failing. I even used the black male and education card recently.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

Not to be a jag but I would get a home drug test kit and use it on him.

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When I am stuck and need to figure something out I always remember the Immortal words of Socrates when he said:"I just drank what?"

My oldest was fairly quick to pick up on things on his own and with limited exceptions, I never really worried about him. He has a lot of discipline and a gift for gab. Plus, he loves money and has worked angles & jobs for years. Plus I think it helped that he was always around other kids that talked about college since he was a pre-teen. (He knew many of my stories as well )

The youngest is the complete opposite, but things have dramatically changed in the last 8-10 months as he & I now talk a lot about virtually everything. He had problems in class not applying himself, and I played the same card. He thought his teacher was an asshole and had shut down. I had to point out that everyone's an asshole in one way or another, including him. When I relayed this to his teacher, we all laughed and things dramatically improved.

Sports helped a lot, same as with me, but him getting engaged in all kind of discussions has helped immeasurably. It's helped more that his mother talks to him as anything other than her baby as well.

But honestly and in retrospect, it is trial and error & I don't really know.

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Yeah I'm just throwing shit at the wall daily. I took activities away when the grades slipped and even put my foot up his ass but he still didn't care. Now I'm strictly just talking with arm around the shoulder. Took away weekend visits with mom hoping that being someone glued to me changes some things. I allowed him to play flag football without a grade restriction. I hope this helps.

He was really low maintenance like your oldest son sounds like he is and I probably took it for granted that he would stay that way. Pissed I missed the shift.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

Try a therapist?

you're referring to your wife when you speak of giving her schnapps, correct?

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