Does anyone know what he really looks like. Even if you look at pictures, what you see is being interpreted through ego and self preserving mental items that keep you from seeing what you really are.

I'll tell you what I see, average height, above average weight going between medically overweight and obese depending on the time of the year, graying, thinning hair. I think you can see a certain amount of past athleticism rather than just a blob who was always fat.

As far as ne'er do well, you can't see that. However, if that is perception, you'd be objectively incorrect. The phrase denotes lazy, embarrassing, unaccomplished and irresponsible. I'm pretty low key but if I looked at it from the outside, I'm pretty accomplished academically and professionally. I look back on things and I worked incredibly hard in my 20s and 30s at a level that just isn't common. I think people would say I'm responsible to the point of being boring. I do probably embarrass myself and others on occasion.

I didn't mean to suggest you were lazy or unaccomplished. You've obviously got a lot going for you. Your sardonic and sometimes hedonistic board persona has given me a strange image of your appearance, though.