We/I pick up for 15 minutes every night, usually the kitchen or toy room. Sometimes if we/I are rolling we keep going. I do most of the cleaning/scrubby cleaning when I have time or on weekends. I put away laundry when the kids are getting ready for bed. Toys are pretty much only allowed in their rooms or the toy room. They get resorted and cleaned once a week, usually on a Friday night or Sunday morning. It's mostly my job. My husband is a huge help with picking up not so good on the scrubby stuff. This way rooms like the dining room,our bedroom, guest room, take about 15 minutes to clean at anytime because there isn't crap all over the place.

I clean in stages a lot. Sometimes I say okay just this one room today, that's all I'll do but at least it will be one room. Other times if I notice a bathroom is messy I'll scrub the sink and wipe down the mirror for a couple minutes, then later in the day or the next day come back to it and do the floor and baseboards, then later the tub or shower. Sometimes I spend 5 minutes at a time doing something small before we go somewhere. It ends up making a difference and I don't feel so overwhelmed by it then. I'm also never too tired to do it.

I also always keep the family room clean. No kids toys at the end of the day, no papers, no crap. It always takes about a half hour to clean once a week and if somebody drops by I can lead them into that space and I don't think anybody notices the clutter in the rest of the house. My kitchen is always clean but it's cluttered with kids papers, projects, lists, bags of stuff to return, whatever. I usually scrub it here and there when I'm making dinner.

Im pretty hammered right now.

Sounds like you live in a museum......

15? I suspect he is coming home and blowing loads, not throwing them.

YOU'RE MARRIED??!?!

Thank goodness I read a little further, because I damn sure was about to ask the same thing. Congrats Crosscheck!!!

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Kids get less expensive at the age of 6 because that's when they go to school full time. Next year we're gonna feel like we inherited another house payment's worth of $ every month now that daycare will be done.

Never been married but have lived with a couple of "girlfriends". I never let anyone do my laundry. Been doing that on my own since I was about 10 I'd say. Lots of the cleaning I got so used to doing by myself just by virtue of being an only child and my parents being divorced. My mom was usually working two jobs while I was in school and cleaning the house was something I always did. My girlfriends would clean and cook. Never got used to it. I honestly don't like people doing too much for me. It feels weird.

Doing laundry removes the sexiness and mystery of a woman's undergarments.

Im pretty hammered right now.

I need to get caught up, haven't listened to any the new episodes since the Springfield and Geragos one. Wish they wouldn't pinch the News segment so much; they need the time to run 20 minutes+ of ads now so they take it out of the news. Remember when podcasts were better than radio because they didn't have many/if any ads. Those were the days.

When you picture having a long and happy marriage, vacuuming may not come to mind, but it should. A new study of 220 couples published by the University of Illinois found that wives who want to divide household chores equally are significantly happier if their husbands agree. If their spouses don't, wives' happiness levels plummet.

Yes, it sounds obvious, but according to researchers, marital happiness is linked to housework only for wives who want their husbands to clean just as much as they do. As for women who are content doing all the housework, if their husbands end up pitching in, they’re happy just the same. (Perhaps unsurprisingly, a husband's marital happiness had nothing to do with household chores!)

No matter how you feel about household labor, it’s important to establish guidelines right when you get married, according to the study's lead author Brian Ogolsky, PhD, an assistant professor of human development and family studies at the University of Illinois. "The first two years of marriage are crucial for determining the division of household labor, because that's when lifelong patterns are established," he tells Yahoo Shine. "That’s important, especially if you decide to have kids down the road."

Ogolsky and his team didn’t study the reasons behind their findings, but a wife’s happiness could be linked to chores because wives often end up cleaning more than their husbands do, spending about six extra hours cleaning the home and three additional hours caring for their children per week, according to recent research conducted by the Pew Research Center.

So what do you do if you want more help from your husband? For starters, try giving him "manly" tasks. One study published in the American Sociological Review found that guys who complete traditionally "masculine" jobs, such as taking out the garbage or fixing a broken door handle, report higher sexual frequency than those who fulfill traditionally "feminine" roles. A bit sexist, yes, but hey, whatever it takes!

It's more fun to be a victim

There will never be an effective vaccine. I'll never get one anyway.

It's more fun to be a victim

There will never be an effective vaccine. I'll never get one anyway.

We/I pick up for 15 minutes every night, usually the kitchen or toy room. Sometimes if we/I are rolling we keep going. I do most of the cleaning/scrubby cleaning when I have time or on weekends. I put away laundry when the kids are getting ready for bed. Toys are pretty much only allowed in their rooms or the toy room. They get resorted and cleaned once a week, usually on a Friday night or Sunday morning. It's mostly my job. My husband is a huge help with picking up not so good on the scrubby stuff. This way rooms like the dining room,our bedroom, guest room, take about 15 minutes to clean at anytime because there isn't crap all over the place.

I clean in stages a lot. Sometimes I say okay just this one room today, that's all I'll do but at least it will be one room. Other times if I notice a bathroom is messy I'll scrub the sink and wipe down the mirror for a couple minutes, then later in the day or the next day come back to it and do the floor and baseboards, then later the tub or shower. Sometimes I spend 5 minutes at a time doing something small before we go somewhere. It ends up making a difference and I don't feel so overwhelmed by it then. I'm also never too tired to do it.

I also always keep the family room clean. No kids toys at the end of the day, no papers, no crap. It always takes about a half hour to clean once a week and if somebody drops by I can lead them into that space and I don't think anybody notices the clutter in the rest of the house. My kitchen is always clean but it's cluttered with kids papers, projects, lists, bags of stuff to return, whatever. I usually scrub it here and there when I'm making dinner.

Whoa

You earn like 10 Boxes of wine

Well fuckin'-a, Tweety .... did it take a fucking study to uncover the fact that people are happier when someone helps them do menial tasks and mundane upkeep rather than doing it all themselves?

Whether they realize it or not, women lose respect for men who help out with traditionally female-role household chores and end up having less sex with them

I'm guessing that's more because you say out loud and put in print traditionally female-role household chores. I know I'm a stay at homer, I'm pretty comfortable with my role but few things are as degrading as hearing phrases like women's work or anything about little women from a man.

I'm guessing that's more because you say out loud and put in print traditionally female-role household chores. I know I'm a stay at homer, I'm pretty comfortable with my role but few things are as degrading as hearing phrases like women's work or anything about little women from a man.

I can think of a few more degrading things.

It's more fun to be a victim

There will never be an effective vaccine. I'll never get one anyway.

I'm guessing that's more because you say out loud and put in print traditionally female-role household chores. I know I'm a stay at homer, I'm pretty comfortable with my role but few things are as degrading as hearing phrases like women's work or anything about little women from a man.

The "traditionally female" verbiage and the claim that men who do housework get less sex from their wives is from the study:

Other study shows that U.S. couples who have more equal divisions of labor are less likely to divorce than are couples where one partner specializes in breadwinning and the other partner specializes in family work.

I didn't read the whole thing. There was a sentence in there

Maybe other women don't even want to have sex with gelded-husbands who do housework so the husbands don't get to cheat and thus don't end up divorced?

When the kids are in school for at least 6 hours a day there is no reason a house should ever be dirty if one parent stays at home.