I definitely think it's understandable.

I'm not really big on funerals myself. I try to spend time with people when they're alive. I have a friend who never goes out, always blows off "plans" (quotes because everyone knows you can't make plans with him), complains about being invited to your wedding or your kid's graduation, but he never misses a fucking funeral. I'm not even sure why I call him a "friend".

Based on your stories, you must see the guy every week.

I definitely think it's understandable.

I'm not really big on funerals myself. I try to spend time with people when they're alive. ".

As the kids say, it isn't a binary choice.

Will you feel guilty if you don't go now? Will the spring celebration be enough?

Mr. Ferguson (I just couldn't call him "Turd" in this context. )

That's my father!

Send flowers.

I had a wake to attend for a friends parent that was on a Sunday evening. I also had Bears tickets purchased far in advance. I assumed I could go to the game and then go to the wake after the game. I didn't count on the fact that I was an idiotic 22 year old and I proceeded to drink so much that I passed out upon arriving home and wasn't conscious until my girlfriend (now my wife) was leaving to go. I told her to wait and that I would just shower up and go with her, she said that no amount of hot water and soap would wash away the smell of alcohol seeping thru my pores. I went back to sleep and didn't wake up until Monday morning.

I've found the dead don't miss me.

The purpose of a funeral is to pay respects to those left behind. Being that Mr. Ferguson (I just couldn't call him "Turd" in this context. ) is himself a surviving relative, I don't think he will be judged by his own family members for failure to appear in a difficult time and circumstance.

I had a wake to attend for a friends parent that was on a Sunday evening. I also had Bears tickets purchased far in advance. I assumed I could go to the game and then go to the wake after the game. I didn't count on the fact that I was an idiotic 22 year old and I proceeded to drink so much that I passed out upon arriving home and wasn't conscious until my girlfriend (now my wife) was leaving to go. I told her to wait and that I would just shower up and go with her, she said that no amount of hot water and soap would wash away the smell of alcohol seeping thru my pores. I went back to sleep and didn't wake up until Monday morning.

Tell your family funerals are a waste of money. Cremation & urn, that's all they should pay for.

You can send him as a stand in he has a suit now