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Anyone have confidence and/or self esteem issues as an adult? I'm a fucking old man and I still have them. I have no idea why. I've raised kids to adults which is probably the hardest thing I've done in my life and I still have episodes where I lose confidence in myself when in retrospect I shouldn't have.

I don't want to see any therapist because I cant afford and and I just don't believe in those types of things I guess.

How do you people cope?

You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone.

Terry's Peeps wrote:

You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone.

Jeffrey Dahmer was american

You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone.

Sleeping with a crackwhore will do wonders to improve self esteem.

If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible

Darkside wrote:

If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible

Better yet, read some Baby McNown posts. That should immediately make you feel better about yourself.

Have you tried mushrooms? Or molly? Maybe both at the same time. That kind of an experience is the equivalent of 100 therapy sessions for most people.

Darkside wrote:

If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible

Better yet, read some Baby McNown posts. That should immediately make you feel better about yourself.

ok thanks for the advice. dont think ill do therapy but should.

i dont know what the fuck is wrong w/ me. I've always had this issue. thru my life ppl have said it comes from my mom.

even when I was younger and in the civilized world and working corporate type of jobs, I would always think like 'im going to fuck this up' or 'no way I can do this' or 'man i'm such a dimwit' instead of something more confident and positive.

at this age i doubt anyone will get this out of me now if it has not happened before.

I just got to cope with it.

but man, if i had one fucking ounce of confidence in my life I'd be a much different man professionally. I always dreamt they had a confident or courage pill. or like i'd be diagnosed w/ something and the doc would give me some drug that would make me more confident. i'm sure there's things out there but i hardly take any type of medicine even if I need it. Even tylenol i try to avoid.

I had back surgery about 20 years ago and they gave me some strong pain medicine. I did not take any of it. Just have a stigma when it comes to any type of medicines.

ok just rambling on now. i should be happy i'm still living and breathing i guess.

If all else fails, just remember that. . .

YOU LIVE IN FUCKING HAWAII, DUDE!

Panther pislA wrote:

If all else fails, just remember that. . .

YOU LIVE IN FUCKING HAWAII, DUDE!

Author:	HawaiiYou [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 12:08 pm ]
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Anyone have confidence and/or self esteem issues as an adult? I'm a fucking old man and I still have them. I have no idea why. I've raised kids to adults which is probably the hardest thing I've done in my life and I still have episodes where I lose confidence in myself when in retrospect I shouldn't have. I don't want to see any therapist because I cant afford and and I just don't believe in those types of things I guess. How do you people cope?

Author:	Cashman [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 12:20 pm ]
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists Find a therapist.

Author:	tommy [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 2:00 pm ]
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HawaiiYou wrote: Anyone have confidence and/or self esteem issues as an adult? I'm a fucking old man and I still have them. I have no idea why. I've raised kids to adults which is probably the hardest thing I've done in my life and I still have episodes where I lose confidence in myself when in retrospect I shouldn't have. I don't want to see any therapist because I cant afford and and I just don't believe in those types of things I guess. How do you people cope? I'd bet many of us feel this way. And long-term therapy works for this better than anything. But for now, take stock in some of the positives: You have a unique--and I mean u-friggin'-nique--like mo-mo-mo-mo-nique--voice, people are interested in what you say, and you've raised kids into adulthood. You've also persisted after some shitty life events. That's some cool stuff.

Author:	WaitingforRuffcorn [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 2:05 pm ]
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HawaiiYou wrote: Anyone have confidence and/or self esteem issues as an adult? I'm a fucking old man and I still have them. I have no idea why. I've raised kids to adults which is probably the hardest thing I've done in my life and I still have episodes where I lose confidence in myself when in retrospect I shouldn't have. I don't want to see any therapist because I cant afford and and I just don't believe in those types of things I guess. How do you people cope? You have to realize that everyone else has similar doubts, or they are Trump.

Author:	Frank Coztansa [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 6:00 pm ]
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Sleeping with a crackwhore will do wonders to improve self esteem.

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Author:	Darkside [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 6:10 pm ]
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If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible and become a condescending asshole. It has worked wonders for others around here.

Author:	IkeSouth [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 6:42 pm ]
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If you raised good kids then you should have all the confidence in the world because you actually are a benefit to society.

Author:	Terry's Peeps [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 6:48 pm ]
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You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone.

Author:	IkeSouth [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 6:58 pm ]
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Terry's Peeps wrote: You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone. Jeffrey Dahmer was american

Author:	Darkside [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 7:04 pm ]
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IkeSouth wrote: Terry's Peeps wrote: You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone. Jeffrey Dahmer was american Clearly in the remaining 4%

Author:	Frank Coztansa [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 7:06 pm ]
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Terry's Peeps wrote: You are a goddamn American. You are better than 96% of people in the world by virtue of that fact alone. He's also a Cubs fan. That means 96% of the people of the world are better than he.

Author:	Drunk Squirrel [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 7:07 pm ]
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HawaiiYou wrote: Anyone have confidence and/or self esteem issues as an adult? I'm a fucking old man and I still have them. I have no idea why. I've raised kids to adults which is probably the hardest thing I've done in my life and I still have episodes where I lose confidence in myself when in retrospect I shouldn't have. I don't want to see any therapist because I cant afford and and I just don't believe in those types of things I guess. How do you people cope? Alcohol. No seriously, I’m an over thinker but as I’ve aged I’ve just started to accept it’s just easier to not care what the vast majority of people think. Does it mean that anxiety and self doubt don’t rear their ugly heads from time to time? Of course not.

Author:	Ron Wolfley [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 8:03 pm ]
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Have you tried mushrooms? Or molly? Maybe both at the same time. That kind of an experience is the equivalent of 100 therapy sessions for most people.

Author:	Seacrest [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 8:08 pm ]
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Frank Coztansa wrote: Sleeping with a crackwhore will do wonders to improve self esteem. And your white blood cell count.

Author:	Regular Reader [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 2:05 am ]
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This is before your time here, but this screams out for a Racoon post imo. Seriously though, please feel free to vent here. Or send pms. I'd hate for these kinds of things to envelope anyone here, not thinking that others here didn't care.

Author:	Godfella [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 8:32 am ]
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HawaiiYou - I'm far from Dr. Phil but have learned a few things in 50+ years. There's a lot of good advice above mixed in with some humor - which is very important. You have to laugh in life and find lightness even if it is at your expense. We all do/say stupid things at times. Fuhgeddaboudit, laugh it off and move on. However, never be anybody's fool. That does not resonate well for your soul. Try to do good things for people and be kind - especially if they are in need. Quality people remember those who have done good for them when they needed help. You will personally feel better and be repaid threefold in the future. Dwelling on negativity, the past (here comes the Ditka meme), regrets, would'ves, could'ves, mistakes, etc. will just drag your soul down as low as you let it. Before you know it, you are down. I think Carrie Fisher said this; “Resentment is like drinking a poison and then waiting for the other person to die.” Faith. The saying "You have yours, I have mine." is what I live by. No sermons here. However, a good trip to the confessional every now and then works pretty good for me. I don't think priests are allowed to wear a wire... are they? (Humor). I can't speak to the therapy thing. However, the people I have personally seen that received talk therapy and/or meds are really worse off than when they started. Some of the things they "discover" during the sessions gave them more to be sad/anxious/nervous about. To each his own. Forgive and let go. Everybody has crap done to them in life. It's not fair but it is what it is. I'm not talking 12 step stuff but if that's what you need to do then do it. I mean stop carrying around anything crappy from the past with you everyday. The chances are pretty good that the people involved are dead, don't care and/or haven't thought about it in years. I am blessed and very fortunate to have a great wife of 30 years. She is a rock and the heart of my family. That is also extremely important. A partner, confidant and an unwavering genuine alliance. We all have our own unique issues in life and at times they can be overwhelming. You have to try and find your own unique way of coping. Try taking bits and pieces of information you like and create "your way". In closing, don't underestimate the power of a Xanex every now and then. I understand that stuff works very well.

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Author:	pittmike [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 8:19 pm ]
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Funny topic. The most important thing to do when considering this is how do you evaluate? If you are one to compare yourself to others than you have to be sure of one thing. Don’t compare your insides to other people outsides. It is not accurate.

Author:	Brick [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 8:28 pm ]
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Find people who are less intelligent and funny for comparison. This board is a great resource for that.

Author:	newper [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 8:52 pm ]
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Don't worry about it. You know what to worry about but the things you are worrying about aren't worth it. Be like the dude and just fuck it man. You know what I mean?

Author:	Crystal Lake Hoffy [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 9:02 pm ]
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My name is a brand. I'm doing okay.

Author:	Rod [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 9:43 pm ]
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Darkside wrote: If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible Better yet, read some Baby McNown posts. That should immediately make you feel better about yourself.

Author:	RFDC [ Sun Jun 24, 2018 9:50 pm ]
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Joe Orr Road Rod wrote: Darkside wrote: If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible Better yet, read some Baby McNown posts. That should immediately make you feel better about yourself.

Author:	tommy [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 12:23 am ]
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Ron Wolfley wrote: Have you tried mushrooms? Or molly? Maybe both at the same time. That kind of an experience is the equivalent of 100 therapy sessions for most people. Christ, mushrooms once made me think my friend Liam and a group of Native Americans were conspiring against me. Of course, I left the White Horse Inn and somehow made it home, where I watched Major League and giggled pleasantly throughout. So perhaps Dr. Wolfey is right.

Author:	Baby McNown [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 12:57 am ]
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Joe Orr Road Rod wrote: Darkside wrote: If you're lacking in confidence or self esteem just read the bible Better yet, read some Baby McNown posts. That should immediately make you feel better about yourself. Triggered

Author:	HawaiiYou [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 1:38 am ]
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ok thanks for the advice. dont think ill do therapy but should. i dont know what the fuck is wrong w/ me. I've always had this issue. thru my life ppl have said it comes from my mom. even when I was younger and in the civilized world and working corporate type of jobs, I would always think like 'im going to fuck this up' or 'no way I can do this' or 'man i'm such a dimwit' instead of something more confident and positive. at this age i doubt anyone will get this out of me now if it has not happened before. I just got to cope with it. but man, if i had one fucking ounce of confidence in my life I'd be a much different man professionally. I always dreamt they had a confident or courage pill. or like i'd be diagnosed w/ something and the doc would give me some drug that would make me more confident. i'm sure there's things out there but i hardly take any type of medicine even if I need it. Even tylenol i try to avoid. I had back surgery about 20 years ago and they gave me some strong pain medicine. I did not take any of it. Just have a stigma when it comes to any type of medicines. ok just rambling on now. i should be happy i'm still living and breathing i guess.

Author:	jimmypasta [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 5:48 am ]
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HawaiiYou wrote: ok thanks for the advice. dont think ill do therapy but should. i dont know what the fuck is wrong w/ me. I've always had this issue. thru my life ppl have said it comes from my mom. even when I was younger and in the civilized world and working corporate type of jobs, I would always think like 'im going to fuck this up' or 'no way I can do this' or 'man i'm such a dimwit' instead of something more confident and positive. at this age i doubt anyone will get this out of me now if it has not happened before. I just got to cope with it. but man, if i had one fucking ounce of confidence in my life I'd be a much different man professionally. I always dreamt they had a confident or courage pill. or like i'd be diagnosed w/ something and the doc would give me some drug that would make me more confident. i'm sure there's things out there but i hardly take any type of medicine even if I need it. Even tylenol i try to avoid. I had back surgery about 20 years ago and they gave me some strong pain medicine. I did not take any of it. Just have a stigma when it comes to any type of medicines. ok just rambling on now. i should be happy i'm still living and breathing i guess. I was given a job that personally had me thinking "I can't handle this. It's too far over my head." I ended up taking the bull by the horns and had a great 22 year run at the company. I remember thinking that opportunities like this don't come around that much so pull my head out of my ass. Everything worked out fine. Good luck!

Author:	Panther pislA [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 8:04 am ]
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If all else fails, just remember that. . . YOU LIVE IN FUCKING HAWAII, DUDE!

Author:	Juiced [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 8:13 am ]
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HawaiiYou wrote: ok thanks for the advice. dont think ill do therapy but should. i dont know what the fuck is wrong w/ me. I've always had this issue. thru my life ppl have said it comes from my mom. even when I was younger and in the civilized world and working corporate type of jobs, I would always think like 'im going to fuck this up' or 'no way I can do this' or 'man i'm such a dimwit' instead of something more confident and positive. at this age i doubt anyone will get this out of me now if it has not happened before. I just got to cope with it. but man, if i had one fucking ounce of confidence in my life I'd be a much different man professionally. I always dreamt they had a confident or courage pill. or like i'd be diagnosed w/ something and the doc would give me some drug that would make me more confident. i'm sure there's things out there but i hardly take any type of medicine even if I need it. Even tylenol i try to avoid. I had back surgery about 20 years ago and they gave me some strong pain medicine. I did not take any of it. Just have a stigma when it comes to any type of medicines. ok just rambling on now. i should be happy i'm still living and breathing i guess. Join Scientology. I think you would fit right in and excel up the ranks to Grand Puba.

Author:	Juiced [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 8:15 am ]
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Panther pislA wrote: If all else fails, just remember that. . . YOU LIVE IN FUCKING HAWAII, DUDE!

Author:	Panther pislA [ Mon Jun 25, 2018 8:16 am ]
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Juiced wrote: Panther pislA wrote: If all else fails, just remember that. . . YOU LIVE IN FUCKING HAWAII, DUDE! Um, that looks pretty damn cool if you ask me.