Generational Trauma = SpiralStairs trying to be funny on CFMB.

Does anyone believe this stuff? We're supposed to believe that if you grew up in a house and were abused by your parent or caregiver and a bunch of murders and stuff happened in your neighborhood, that that has an effect on your life and your relationships with people going forward.

Is this what people really believe?

Does anyone believe this stuff? We're supposed to believe that if you grew up in a house and were abused by your parent or caregiver and a bunch of murders and stuff happened in your neighborhood, that that has an effect on your life and your relationships with people going forward.

Is this what people really believe?

I thought generational trauma was more about that stuff happening to a parent or grandparent or great-grandparent and ultimately impacting you.

PTSD is all in "your" head. Don't believe what the scientists say. Go lay down and take a nap. That was the solution that grandparents offered for centuries before this voodoo science.

Psssht. The family generational advice was go for a run in the Squirrel home.

Does anyone believe this stuff? We're supposed to believe that if you grew up in a house and were abused by your parent or caregiver and a bunch of murders and stuff happened in your neighborhood, that that has an effect on your life and your relationships with people going forward.

Is this what people really believe?

You mean to tell me that if my grand-parents and parents were abused by their parents or caregivers and a bunch of murders and stuff happened in their neighborhoods that it would have an effect on their lives and their relationships with their children going forward? Get the fuck outta here!

there is providence in the fall of a sparrow

What's your point?

if you are falling into some kind of predetermination theory, then why should we hold out any hope for a person with a troubling equation of life experiences?

is the person who breaks the cycle really all that exceptional?

Yes?

More abortions is the solution.

isn't that an implication of some fatalistic predetermination implied by the original post?

Every abuser may have been abused but not everyone abused is an abuser (I'm not saying any of this is true, only creating a logical equation)

Hasn't virtually everyone been "abused" before adulthood? Is all trauma the same?

I think his point was your environment and possibly your genetics can negatively impact your development. Not that it is impossible to overcome those obstacles or that you will definitely pass them down. It was essentially an SS way to get people to be more understanding of others.

MANY times, the way we parent is a reflection of the trauma we're still holding onto and our own insecurities. If we can resolve some issues, our descendents will inherent fewer "issues".

We can only surmise his point because he likes to play cute with his posts rather than state his position and stand for questioning. It's a defense mechanism clearly created through some childhood trauma.

My guy said the same thing. If you are patient, SS will eventually get around to doing that. Unless the issue is abortion.

Hasn't virtually everyone been "abused" before adulthood? Is all trauma the same?

I think his point was your environment and possibly your genetics can negatively impact your development. Not that it is impossible to overcome those obstacles or that you will definitely pass them down. It was essentially an SS way to get people to be more understanding of others.

MANY times, the way we parent is a reflection of the trauma we're still holding onto and our own insecurities. If we can resolve some issues, our descendents will inherent fewer "issues".

No one said anything about absolving bad behavior.

No one said anything about absolving bad behavior.

Trauma breeds trauma. I see a non-violent version of it every day. I'd wager about 60-70% of the people that come through my door grew up as children of divorce. MANY of them also have children who are dragged into a mess they had no part in creating. Coupled with that fact is that MANY of these people also have limited retirement savings and a mountain of debt to boot. At then end of all of it they're doubling their expenses by virtue of living in separate households.

Of course this doesn't mean that children of divorce are automatically going to grow up as failures. But even the most amicable divorce cases still result in kids having their world torn out from beneath them. The contentious cases are exponentially worse.

And that's just suburban upper-middle class people getting divorced.

How many of these people go on to incur 6 figures of student loan debt in pursuit of worthless degrees?

Trauma breeds trauma.