Does he get pissed when Karen flushes the coke?

Does he get pissed when Karen flushes the coke?

No, but the spaghetti sauce is to die for.

my opinion: This is the wife's problem, not yours. She needs to handle it. preferably a final ultimatum and likely divorce, but again, her call. you can be supportive of her when need be.

Tell you wife you are going to ask the woman over to have a heart to heart discussion. Give them both lots of alcohol and while the friend is at her weakest and you wife is admiring you for being a caring guy, work it into a menage. Then tell the husband and collect the insurance after he takes it badly. Finally, leave both women with the kid and run away with your slutty sister in law and the insurance money

Do my wife and I have a responsibility to say something to this guy?

Comical replies are certainly welcome and completely expected.

Here's the deal: my wife and I are friends with another couple who just recently had a child. We never really got along with the husband because he is your typical one-upper. A little bit crazy, not a strong work ethic, a little bit of a free-loader (his wife makes much more than him). Also ex-military, which he likes to brag about on a daily basis. There was also some indiciation very early on (prior to their marriage) that he had been into selling/using pills and other drugs. We never had anything to go off of other than rumors, but whatever.

Fast-forward to a few months ago. This guy starts acting all sorts of weird leading up to the birth their daughter. Really hyperactive, really fidgety, so on and so on. Personality differences are very noticable.

His wife quickly learns that he's been using pills and - via reading a text message or two - also learns he is selling them as well. She confronts him about it, which sets him off and ultimately leads to him getting hospitalized for a "mild overdose". Stomach gets pumped, whole nine yards.

While this is happening we learn that he was actually dishonorably discharged from the Air Force for selling drugs in the past. Interesting.

Things seemed to get a little better for them for awhile, but now the erratic behavior has started again for this guy. He still has pills in the house, but he swears up and down that he isn't using them anymore. His wife has caught him in a few lies already regarding the drugs, but she also just takes a very passive approach to the whole thing. I attribute this to the frequent drug use among her own family members (meaning she's probably use to drugs always being around), but I'm no psychologist and that's just a guess. Whatever.

Long story short, my question is this:

Do my wife and I have a responsibility to say something to this guy? We obviously care very much for their daughter and for the wife, and we could really care less about him. Regardless, we understand that he is the husband to our friend and father to this young child.

We certainly don't want to make anything worse. I've never dealt directly with a drug addict before, so I'm pretty much at a loss right now as to where my responsibility as a concerned "person-in-the-know" begins and ends.

Any thoughts are appreciated.

I don't doubt the ability of you and your wife to be persuasive when the situation warrants, but if he hasn't made any positive changes in his life after all the negative things that have happened as a result of his long-time involvement with drugs I don't think a chat with the two of you is going to make him change his ways.

As Hawg Ass already mentioned, getting involved in someone else's marriage and personal problems is probably not a good idea. If this guy is unstable, which it sounds like he is, I would not get involved to that degree.