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Hatchet, the last time you started a thread like this I got in a lot of trouble.

Ever since my dad almost keeled over about six months ago, I've been calling my parents every night, just to be a good son. (I'm an only child). Unfortunately, they drive me nuts. My mom is always complaining about trivial things. Everything with her is gloom and doom. Anyway, this shit puts me in a bad mood, which effects my own family.

What is my moral obligation here as far as calling my parents?

Once or twice a week. They live in Algonquin.

At least 12 times a day. I wonder if my parents post on another message board how annoying their son is?

Every day. I make sure I spend time with them and my children altogether at least once a week as I think it is important for them to have a strong relationship with their grandparents. I encourage the same closeness with my in laws. I used to take them to see my grandma every Sunday.

There are some days where it can be a chore but these relationships definitely enrich my life.

I feel sadness for those of you with bad family relationships. I don't mean that in a condescending way. I really feel that we benefit in countless ways from tight family relationships.

I would give anything to talk to my Father again. He died in 1993 on the day that we sold our house in St. Louis because I took a promotion to transfer back home to Chicago. Needless to say it was a bittersweet homecoming. My Mother is still alive & at 78 is in great shape mentally & physically. I call her every other day & see her about once a week. No matter how badly your folks might drive you nuts, you gotta put yourself in their shoes. It can be lonely growing old by yourself. A simple phone call might be your Mother or Fathers highlight of their day.

Scorehead wrote:

This is perhaps the one post you've made that i can say i'm +1 with.

Aside from the easy argument that I'm a bum, I live with my 96 year old grandfather. Not only did he take me in 10yrs ago when i was residentially transcendental due to some problems in my life, but he also physically saved my life when i was 6-7 years old and drowning in a pool in durango, colorado. He ran into the pool fully clothed and dragfed me out.... at age ~70 or thereabouts.

So yeah, on the surface I'm 32 and I live with family so [insert HURR DURR LOSER stuff here] but i owe this man my life twice over. He never gave up on me, so after I fixed myself up and got to a pount where i could move out i didn't. And yeah, gpa wants me to move out and live... he's told me i might regret missing out on the late 20s/early 30s bachelor pad experience... but like Liverpool FC he will NEVER walk alone. I'm going to personally make sure that he doesnt die alone in a home; he'll be with family @ his home.

I take him and dad out to brunch every sunday, bears notwithstanding. Its proper, if not overtly ceremonial

Author:	Hatchetman [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:26 pm ]
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Ever since my dad almost keeled over about six months ago, I've been calling my parents every night, just to be a good son. (I'm an only child). Unfortunately, they drive me nuts. My mom is always complaining about trivial things. Everything with her is gloom and doom. Anyway, this shit puts me in a bad mood, which effects my own family. What is my moral obligation here as far as calling my parents?

Author:	Hank Scorpio [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:28 pm ]
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I'll text my dad a couple of times a week and talk to him a couple times a month. My mom is holidays only and even that is going by the wayside.

Author:	doug - evergreen park [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:29 pm ]
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I barely talked to my parents for 10 years when I lived in E.P., hardly saw them, hardly talked. I see/talk once a week now that I'm in Almost Canada, IL. We're getting older...they're getting older faster. Once a week at least.

Author:	The Original Kid Cairo [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:30 pm ]
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Hatchet, the last time you started a thread like this I got in a lot of trouble.

Author:	sjboyd0137 [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:34 pm ]
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My dad: a couple of times a week...usually have to put up with his meatball thoughts after Bears games. Mom: out of my life since I was a kid. Grandma (dad's mom): roughly every other day to make sure she's not dead.

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Author:	Hatchetman [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:35 pm ]
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The Original Kid Cairo wrote: Hatchet, the last time you started a thread like this I got in a lot of trouble. LOL!! I tend to ask these questions with you guys so I don't get in trouble with my own family.

Author:	Hawg Ass [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:36 pm ]
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I talk and or text with my mom everyday, dad passed away last year.

Author:	Dr. Kenneth Noisewater [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:39 pm ]
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Hatchetman wrote: Ever since my dad almost keeled over about six months ago, I've been calling my parents every night, just to be a good son. (I'm an only child). Unfortunately, they drive me nuts. My mom is always complaining about trivial things. Everything with her is gloom and doom. Anyway, this shit puts me in a bad mood, which effects my own family. What is my moral obligation here as far as calling my parents? I'd say deal with it Hatchetman. Both mine have been dead for over a decade. Used to talk to them once or twice a week. And, while, in my mind, it was annoying at the time, I still think back and laugh about my Mom telling some story from her Bridge Club. I saved a bunch of her old emails and usually read a few once a year or so. Glad I saved them.

Author:	redskingreg [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:39 pm ]
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Usually once or twice a week for both mom and dad (both divorced and remarried). I don't get see them nearly as often as I would like, since most of my family lives four hours away. Quite a bit of texting as well. I'm thankful I have a great relationship with both parents.

Author:	donspiracy [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:40 pm ]
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My dad is dead and my mom is a deadbeat. I don't talk to either of them. As for you Hatchetman, tell your mom to use some perspective and tell her to chill the fuck out. If you want to be a jerk, bring up the stuff she was complaining about last week and ask er how she has fixed or adjusted to the issue.

Author:	Northside_Dan [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:40 pm ]
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Once or twice a week. They live in Algonquin. We make sure to see each other once or twice a month

Author:	Hatchetman [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:42 pm ]
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Northside_Dan wrote: Once or twice a week. They live in Algonquin. Shit, maybe we have the same parents.

Author:	Telegram Sam [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:53 pm ]
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I shoot for once a week with my Mom. Every day with my Dad, but it's more in that glowing Obi-Wan kind of way.

Author:	Brick [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:55 pm ]
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At least 12 times a day. I wonder if my parents post on another message board how annoying their son is?

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Author:	donspiracy [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 4:59 pm ]
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Boilermaker Rick wrote: At least 12 times a day. I wonder if my parents post on another message board how annoying their son is? Ma, the meatloaf?!?!

Author:	Peoria Matt [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:07 pm ]
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Call my mom at least Twice a week. Dad died in 83.

Author:	Frank Coztansa [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:19 pm ]
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I play golf with my Dad at least twice a month if our schedules/weather allows in the summer, and now have been playing in a band with him for the past few months. I see my Mom at least once a week, usually twice. Sometimes its annoying, most of of the time its not. On the days it is annoying, at least I get to visit the dog I would think that the number of visits will go down once we move to Orland, but still I can't envision a circumstance with them being alive that I would see them any less than 3-5 times a month. I realize how I lucky I am to be able to do that.

Author:	chaspoppcap [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:22 pm ]
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Minimum once a week.

Author:	stoneroses86 [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:23 pm ]
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Hatchetman wrote: Ever since my dad almost keeled over about six months ago, I've been calling my parents every night, just to be a good son. (I'm an only child). Unfortunately, they drive me nuts. My mom is always complaining about trivial things. Everything with her is gloom and doom. Anyway, this shit puts me in a bad mood, which effects my own family. What is my moral obligation here as far as calling my parents? I do not enjoy speaking to anybody on the telephone, and my Mother used to be, as they say, a "long talker." I must freely admit that this used to irritate me a little bit. Now, however, my Mother can barely hold a conversation. Most of the "conversation" consists of long heartbreaking pauses during which she searches in vain for complicated words such as "the" and my first name. When she can communicate, it is often to describe memories of things that never actually occurred. So, all things considered, I guess the old calls were not so bad.

Author:	Spaulding [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:28 pm ]
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2-3 times a week. They usually come for dinner or to watch the kids one night a week too. I don't think Mr Spaulding calls his much.

Author:	good dolphin [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 5:37 pm ]
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Every day. I make sure I spend time with them and my children altogether at least once a week as I think it is important for them to have a strong relationship with their grandparents. I encourage the same closeness with my in laws. I used to take them to see my grandma every Sunday. There are some days where it can be a chore but these relationships definitely enrich my life. I feel sadness for those of you with bad family relationships. I don't mean that in a condescending way. I really feel that we benefit in countless ways from tight family relationships.

Author:	K Effective [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 7:50 pm ]
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My folks live about 1.5 miles away, I talk to Mom two or three times a week. Dad has been my #1 hired man on the farm until his cancer-induced spine fractures this summer. We would spend up to 20 hours a week together, now it is usually 2-3 times of chat for a few minutes. During sports seasons, they will come to all the kids games, etc, so there is a bit more. My wife relishes the fact that the Lake lies between she and her parents in Brewtown, misses her Mom, but the Parkinson's stuff with her Dad is tough to deal with...

Author:	Terry's Peeps [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 7:58 pm ]
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I see my dad nearly every day. He's retired and watches Speeps Jr whilst my wife and I are working. I see my mom usually 3 times a week.

Author:	Hawg Ass [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 9:17 pm ]
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good dolphin wrote: Every day. I make sure I spend time with them and my children altogether at least once a week as I think it is important for them to have a strong relationship with their grandparents. I encourage the same closeness with my in laws. I used to take them to see my grandma every Sunday. There are some days where it can be a chore but these relationships definitely enrich my life. I feel sadness for those of you with bad family relationships. I don't mean that in a condescending way. I really feel that we benefit in countless ways from tight family relationships. Very well said, everyday when my son is with me, I make him to talk to his grandmother. She is 620 miles away and I think he is closer with her than his grandmother that is 15 minutes from him.

Author:	Scorehead [ Thu Nov 08, 2012 11:47 pm ]
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I would give anything to talk to my Father again. He died in 1993 on the day that we sold our house in St. Louis because I took a promotion to transfer back home to Chicago. Needless to say it was a bittersweet homecoming. My Mother is still alive & at 78 is in great shape mentally & physically. I call her every other day & see her about once a week. No matter how badly your folks might drive you nuts, you gotta put yourself in their shoes. It can be lonely growing old by yourself. A simple phone call might be your Mother or Fathers highlight of their day.

Author:	RFDC [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 12:01 am ]
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Both my folks have passed on and I wish I could have more opportunities to visit with them. Those of you who have parents still in your lives take advantage of these days, you won't always have them.

Author:	sinicalypse [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 8:59 am ]
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Scorehead wrote: I would give anything to talk to my Father again. He died in 1993 on the day that we sold our house in St. Louis because I took a promotion to transfer back home to Chicago. Needless to say it was a bittersweet homecoming. My Mother is still alive & at 78 is in great shape mentally & physically. I call her every other day & see her about once a week. No matter how badly your folks might drive you nuts, you gotta put yourself in their shoes. It can be lonely growing old by yourself. A simple phone call might be your Mother or Fathers highlight of their day. This is perhaps the one post you've made that i can say i'm +1 with. Aside from the easy argument that I'm a bum, I live with my 96 year old grandfather. Not only did he take me in 10yrs ago when i was residentially transcendental due to some problems in my life, but he also physically saved my life when i was 6-7 years old and drowning in a pool in durango, colorado. He ran into the pool fully clothed and dragfed me out.... at age ~70 or thereabouts. So yeah, on the surface I'm 32 and I live with family so [insert HURR DURR LOSER stuff here] but i owe this man my life twice over. He never gave up on me, so after I fixed myself up and got to a pount where i could move out i didn't. And yeah, gpa wants me to move out and live... he's told me i might regret missing out on the late 20s/early 30s bachelor pad experience... but like Liverpool FC he will NEVER walk alone. I'm going to personally make sure that he doesnt die alone in a home; he'll be with family @ his home. I take him and dad out to brunch every sunday, bears notwithstanding. Its proper, if not overtly ceremonial

Author:	Colonel Angus [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 10:50 am ]
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You're a good guy, Sini.

Author:	Hawg Ass [ Fri Nov 09, 2012 10:57 am ]
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sinicalypse wrote: Scorehead wrote: I would give anything to talk to my Father again. He died in 1993 on the day that we sold our house in St. Louis because I took a promotion to transfer back home to Chicago. Needless to say it was a bittersweet homecoming. My Mother is still alive & at 78 is in great shape mentally & physically. I call her every other day & see her about once a week. No matter how badly your folks might drive you nuts, you gotta put yourself in their shoes. It can be lonely growing old by yourself. A simple phone call might be your Mother or Fathers highlight of their day. This is perhaps the one post you've made that i can say i'm +1 with. Aside from the easy argument that I'm a bum, I live with my 96 year old grandfather. Not only did he take me in 10yrs ago when i was residentially transcendental due to some problems in my life, but he also physically saved my life when i was 6-7 years old and drowning in a pool in durango, colorado. He ran into the pool fully clothed and dragfed me out.... at age ~70 or thereabouts. So yeah, on the surface I'm 32 and I live with family so [insert HURR DURR LOSER stuff here] but i owe this man my life twice over. He never gave up on me, so after I fixed myself up and got to a pount where i could move out i didn't. And yeah, gpa wants me to move out and live... he's told me i might regret missing out on the late 20s/early 30s bachelor pad experience... but like Liverpool FC he will NEVER walk alone. I'm going to personally make sure that he doesnt die alone in a home; he'll be with family @ his home. I take him and dad out to brunch every sunday, bears notwithstanding. Its proper, if not overtly ceremonial Very nice story, attaboy Sini!!!