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Author:  rogers park bryan [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Hitting your kids
Do you?

Some people swear by it. Some say spanking is ok. Some say more than that is ok. Some say its never ok.

What do you say?
Author:  badrogue17 [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:37 pm ]
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rogers park bryan wrote:
Do you?

Some people swear by it. Some say spanking is ok. Some say more than that is ok. Some say its never ok.

What do you say?

Nothing wrong with swatting kids on the ass, especially if theyre your own. Mrs Rogue is more of a timeout type, but theres no way she has the strength to keep me on the stairs more than 4 seconds so it usually doesnt work out to well.
Author:  Frank Coztansa [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:40 pm ]
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+1, rougue.

Not a parent yet, but I would have no problem with a spanking now and then, or pulling a shirt collar or something like that. Would never pull out a belt or make the kid(s) eat soap.
Author:  Tall Midget [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:41 pm ]
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I would never do it because I had bad experiences with corporal "punishment" as a child.
Author:  Hawg Ass [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:41 pm ]
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I've spanked my son in the past, and have no problem with it at all.
Author:  Bagels [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:41 pm ]
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MOTHER (O.C.) Don't you dare talk to me like that! You hear me?

ELAINE Look at that woman.

SHE'S HITTING HER BOY ON THE BACK OF HIS HEAD.

MOTHER I told you! I don't care! You'll have to wait.

GEORGE (TO WOMAN) Hey, is that necessary?

MOTHER (TO GEORGE) Why don't you mind your own business?

GEORGE I think hitting a defenseless child is my business.

KID (TO GEORGE) You're ugly.

GEORGE ...What?

KID You're ugly.

GEORGE You are!

KID You are!

THE KID GETS IN THE CAR. GEORGE IS STUNNED.

GEORGE I should've hit the little son-of-a-bitch. I can't stand kids. Adults think it's so wonderful how honest kids are. I don't need that kind of honesty. I'll take a deceptive adult over an honest kid any day
Author:  Hawg Ass [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:44 pm ]
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Keeping Score wrote:
I had a lot of soap in my mouth as a kid.

We just wish they had done the chopping off finger treatment.
Author:  SomeGuy [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:44 pm ]
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Keeping Score wrote:
I had a lot of soap in my mouth as a kid.


Me too. Never a bar, though, just the liquid stuff which was worse.

I got a paddlin' every now and again, too.
Author:  beni hanna [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:45 pm ]
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In a perfect world, with perfect child moulding, probably don't need it or want to use it. The world is far from perfect. It has a place in my estimation. My guess is there is a time in the kid's development where it might be necessary to apply the basic spank. Not sure I would ever do any other type of hitting. It's a slippery slope. If the kid doesn't fully get why he/she is being spanked, did it serve a purpose? Do you have to up the ante to try and get a point across later if the reason for being spanked in the first place continues?
Author:  rogers park bryan [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:46 pm ]
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I spanked my daugther twice.

Both times, I think I would have had the same result by other means.


Ill never hit her. I think spanking a toddler is about as far as it goes.

People talk of smacking their kid in the face. Ill never do that.

My mom did soap and when she was out of ideas smacked me in the face until I got old enough to see it coming and block it.

Not a lot. Like a handful of times.
Author:  K Effective [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:48 pm ]
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Spanking was always and still is in the discipline mix for Mrs. Effective and I- although with the youngin's now all 13+, it is less likely. :wink: She is an elementary school teacher who would not spank at school, but who was adamant about using it with our kids. However, I can not place a total of a dozen actual discipline spankings over 3 kids and 19 years to date. I only remember getting one spanking from my Dad, and he told me before how disappointed he was that he had to do it- that hurt far worse than the belt.

Mrs. K has long known which students need the spanking and has used her communication with the parents who are so inclined to take the matter into their own hand, so to speak...

Would not think of hitting a child in any other way- slap or punch, etc.
Author:  rogers park bryan [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:49 pm ]
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beni hanna wrote:
In a perfect world, with perfect child moulding, probably don't need it or want to use it. The world is far from perfect. It has a place in my estimation. My guess is there is a time in the kid's development where it might be necessary to apply the basic spank. Not sure I would ever do any other type of hitting. It's a slippery slope. If the kid doesn't fully get why he/she is being spanked, did it serve a purpose? Do you have to up the ante to try and get a point across later if the reason for being spanked in the first place continues?

Agreed on the slippery slope.

Also, I think you're teaching your kids that problem solving involves violence.
Author:  beni hanna [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:53 pm ]
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rogers park bryan wrote:
beni hanna wrote:
In a perfect world, with perfect child moulding, probably don't need it or want to use it. The world is far from perfect. It has a place in my estimation. My guess is there is a time in the kid's development where it might be necessary to apply the basic spank. Not sure I would ever do any other type of hitting. It's a slippery slope. If the kid doesn't fully get why he/she is being spanked, did it serve a purpose? Do you have to up the ante to try and get a point across later if the reason for being spanked in the first place continues?

Agreed on the slippery slope.

Also, I think you're teaching your kids that problem solving involves violence.

K-Effective raised the most important part of the spank. This is why I am spanking you. Spank. It hurts me to spank you and I don't want to do it. But you cannot continue to do this.

"the talk" along with the spank can be effective (s0rry). I stole a lot around 5 - 6. Mom/dad tried the talk with no corporal punishment. Young beni kept doing it. I got spanked and explained. It was serious and it hurt them too. No more stealing.

Still, a really tough call. Didn't work too well with my sister.
Author:  The Original Kid Cairo [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:54 pm ]
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Yes I I've done it. No belts or foreign objects or anything like that though. Just my hand. It's always been a last resort because it's rarely been necessary. The mere threat of a spanking is usually enough of a deterrent for him.
Author:  rogers park bryan [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 3:57 pm ]
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Many people my age (32) and a few years older seem to take pride in how much their parents "beat their ass" growing up

You never hear parents bragging about it though
Author:  shirtless driver [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:03 pm ]
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I can't even raise my voice with my 6.5 year old daughter without feeling like a fucking tyrant, so there's no chance I'd ever raise a hand to her.
Author:  Peoria Matt [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:12 pm ]
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No hitting. But my children know when I'm pissed off and that usually ends the problem.
Author:  Bagels [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:17 pm ]
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The Original Kid Cairo wrote:
Yes I I've done it. No belts or foreign objects or anything like that though. Just my hand. It's always been a last resort because it's rarely been necessary. The mere threat of a spanking is usually enough of a deterrent for him.


why do they call them foreign objects?
Author:  Beardown [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:20 pm ]
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My old man would crack me pretty good when I got out of line. I turned out fine.

CSFMB: :lol:

Beardown: What?
Author:  Terry's Peeps [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:29 pm ]
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I've spanked my son. Then I've felt bad afterwards.

I'll talk to him and ask him if he knows what he did wrong. He'll answer and then I make sure to tell him I love him.

Or if he's really bad I'll make him listen to Boers and Bernstein.
Author:  Terry's Peeps [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:30 pm ]
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Bagels wrote:
The Original Kid Cairo wrote:
Yes I I've done it. No belts or foreign objects or anything like that though. Just my hand. It's always been a last resort because it's rarely been necessary. The mere threat of a spanking is usually enough of a deterrent for him.


why do they call them foreign objects?


Do you work for Turner in the 90's?
Author:  badrogue17 [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:31 pm ]
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Terry's Peeps wrote:
I've spanked my son. Then I've felt bad afterwards.

I'll talk to him and ask him if he knows what he did wrong. He'll answer and then I make sure to tell him I love him.

Or if he's really bad I'll make him listen to Boers and Bernstein.
:lol: :lol:
Author:  KDdidit [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:32 pm ]
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Nope, would prefer not to have my kids think that violence is an answer to their problems.
Author:  Chus [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:45 pm ]
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Tall Midget wrote:
I would never do it because I had bad experiences with corporal "punishment" as a child.


This. I don't want my boys to fear me, like I feared my father.
Author:  Brick [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:46 pm ]
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Yes, I will hit your kids.
Author:  good dolphin [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:49 pm ]
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Chus wrote:
Tall Midget wrote:
I would never do it because I had bad experiences with corporal "punishment" as a child.


This. I don't want my boys to fear me, like I feared my father.


I got spanked but I never feared my father. I do spank. One kid keeps saying, "that didn't hurt". I tell him "it wasn't supposed to hurt".
Author:  Psycory [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:50 pm ]
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We don't do it.
Time out/positive reinforcement for good behavior is what we do. That's the part people forget about time-out, it doesn't teach by itself. You need to reinforce positive behavior. We use a 'marble' system, each child has an ice cube tray and every time they do something good that they were not told to do they get a marble. When their tray is full, they get a prize from a basket full of prizes (coloring books, bracelets, matchbox cars, etc). It works pretty well.

But then again, what do I know, I'm just a psychologist.
Author:  Chus [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:56 pm ]
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good dolphin wrote:
Chus wrote:
Tall Midget wrote:
I would never do it because I had bad experiences with corporal "punishment" as a child.


This. I don't want my boys to fear me, like I feared my father.


I got spanked but I never feared my father. I do spank. One kid keeps saying, "that didn't hurt". I tell him "it wasn't supposed to hurt".


My parents came from Europe, so they thought they were going easy on us.

My mother used a wooden spoon on my brother and I, but she is a tiny woman, and that didn't even hurt. The old man just used his hands. A slap across the face, flicking the back of my head with his finger, and lifting me off the ground by my hair were his favorite methods when I was grade school aged. When I got to high school, it was a two handed shove which slammed my head into a wall. Good times.
Author:  Terry's Peeps [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:59 pm ]
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Psycory wrote:
But then again, what do I know, I'm just a psychologist.


Can we really trust anyone who works at Penn State?!

:P
Author:  Douchebag [ Mon Feb 11, 2013 5:43 pm ]
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Hawg Ass wrote:
Keeping Score wrote:
I had a lot of soap in my mouth as a kid.

We just wish they had done the chopping off finger treatment.

Chas has other ideas...
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