Frank Coztansa wrote:
RFDC wrote:
But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed.
Raising them in Missouri is way across that line.
someone should have beat you with a spoon when you were little.
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| Author: | jimmypasta [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 4:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
I can confess to some slaps on the bottom during toddler years,that's about it. Seriously,my two kids were pretty well behaved. I have seen some hyper kids in my life that need some form of punishment. Is it better to put a label on said kids and drug them into a stupor to calm them down? |
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| Author: | pittmike [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 4:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Similar to Jimmy some slaps on the ass or hand when toddlers. In fact, I can't even remember a single instance clearly. My thought on the toddler range was you are not reasoning with that age child when they need to learn don't touch the hot pot on the stove or something. |
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| Author: | FavreFan [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 4:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
I have never slapped or hit a little kid. What do I win? |
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| Author: | jimmypasta [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:01 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
FavreFan wrote: I have never slapped or hit a little kid. What do I win? 8x10 of Bernstein. |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
i have swatted all of mine on the rear end at times. Never used any switches or spoons or anything like that, and never left any marks or bruises, etc. I do not think swatting on the rear equals child abuse like it seems many today believe. But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. |
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| Author: | pittmike [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
RFDC wrote: i have swatted all of mine on the rear end at times. Never used any switches or spoons or anything like that, and never left any marks or bruises, etc. I do not think swatting on the rear equals child abuse like it seems many today believe. But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. That is the part I do not get with some especially Bernsie. Even if you vehemently disagree with light spanking and its results why lump everyone together as sensationalist abusers? |
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| Author: | jimmypasta [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:09 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
RFDC wrote: i have swatted all of mine on the rear end at times. Never used any switches or spoons or anything like that, and never left any marks or bruises, etc. I do not think swatting on the rear equals child abuse like it seems many today believe. But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. Bernstein would have you on the same level as the Manson family for your views. I just heard his latest "crusade" driving home. What a tool. |
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| Author: | IkeSouth [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
i have never slapped a black kid |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
jimmypasta wrote: RFDC wrote: i have swatted all of mine on the rear end at times. Never used any switches or spoons or anything like that, and never left any marks or bruises, etc. I do not think swatting on the rear equals child abuse like it seems many today believe. But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. Bernstein would have you on the same level as the Manson family for your views. I just heard his latest "crusade" driving home. What a tool. yeah I started listening earlier and turned it off. Was not interested in hearing him go on about that today. Bernsie is wrong on this one, IMO. |
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| Author: | Frank Coztansa [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:10 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
RFDC wrote: But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. Raising them in Missouri is way across that line.
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| Author: | RFDC [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Frank Coztansa wrote: RFDC wrote: But there is definitely a line that should not be crossed. Raising them in Missouri is way across that line. someone should have beat you with a spoon when you were little.
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| Author: | Peoria Matt [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Never touched our kids but I verbally blew up on my 7 year old son a few months back. He was so scared he started to cry and had a hard time catching his breath. He told me "your yelling felt like you punched me in the stomach" I have never felt as bad as a person. I will never lay a hand on our kids. I can't imagine how it would freak them out. |
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| Author: | jimmypasta [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Peoria Matt wrote: Never touched our kids but I verbally blew up on my 7 year old son a few months back. He was so scared he started to cry and had a hard time catching his breath. He told me "your yelling felt like you punched me in the stomach" I have never felt as bad as a person. I will never lay a hand on our kids. I can't imagine how it would freak them out. I can understand that. My big mouth can be a lot scarier than a slap on the butt. |
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| Author: | Scorehead [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Nope. Never. |
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| Author: | Hatchetman [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
I slapped my son's bottom once when he was like two and refused to stop dancing in the tub. I was worried he was going to slip and crack his head open. Wife never lets me forget that one. I blow my top every few months though less frequently than I used to. |
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| Author: | leashyourkids [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
jimmypasta wrote: FavreFan wrote: I have never slapped or hit a little kid. What do I win? 8x10 of Bernstein. That's why jimmypasta is the fucking man. I have not hit my unborn child... yet. |
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| Author: | Big Chicagoan [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:20 pm ] |
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leashyourkids wrote: jimmypasta wrote: FavreFan wrote: I have never slapped or hit a little kid. What do I win? 8x10 of Bernstein. That's why jimmypasta is the fucking man. I have not hit my unborn child... yet. I think your screen name speaks for itself. |
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| Author: | leashyourkids [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
I will say this once and for all... Leashing children is clinically proven to be effective. Just ask Sean Hannity. |
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| Author: | Big Chicagoan [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
leashyourkids wrote: I will say this once and for all... Leashing children is clinically proven to be effective. Just ask Sean Hannity. Do you use a regular collar, choker, pincher, or just a gentle leader? Or are you more of a harness man? |
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| Author: | leashyourkids [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Big Chicagoan wrote: leashyourkids wrote: I will say this once and for all... Leashing children is clinically proven to be effective. Just ask Sean Hannity. Do you use a regular collar, choker, pincher, or just a gentle leader? Or are you more of a harness man? Depends if they recognize me as the alpha male. If not, a choker will typically send a loving message. |
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| Author: | veganfan21 [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Though I was spanked as a child I think trying to kiddy reason is better than resorting to force. For discipline I'd imagine expressing how disobedience and/or reckless behavior can lead to unwelcome consequences would be a more effective way to reform behavior, as well as provide better learning experiences. For AP style spanking I just don't know how you can go that far. Toddlers are simply chunkier and taller babies until like three, and even afterward they're still so small and helpless. |
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| Author: | Nas [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 5:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Yes I have. I told myself when I had kids I would never curse at them. My grandmother invented curse words and that actually bothered me more as a kid than any belt or hand could. My son made break my promise to myself earlier this year. Boys can be very special. |
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| Author: | K Effective [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 9:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
We spanked, but did not need to for long; about one diaper-less swat on the bottom got that message across. I do remember a 3-shot barrage that I landed on the rear of our oldest when he was about 4 years old- I felt that was too much after the fact. I have never slapped anyone, but my wife did slap our daughter about a year ago, for using a certain word to her in anger. I didn't see it, but was surprised by the event, and impressed by the results! |
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| Author: | bigfan [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 9:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
My nephew would take 5 smacks anyday of the week, over taking away his Ipad, XBox and TV. The only thing is that what I have seen is the Ipads and such are given to the kids as an extended pacifier, so when the Ipad is taken away they bug the parents so much, that the threat of no Ipad for a week, becomes 3 hours! |
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| Author: | Chus [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 10:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
K Effective wrote: We spanked, but did not need to for long; about one diaper-less swat on the bottom got that message across. I do remember a 3-shot barrage that I landed on the rear of our oldest when he was about 4 years old- I felt that was too much after the fact. I have never slapped anyone, but my wife did slap our daughter about a year ago, for using a certain word to her in anger. I didn't see it, but was surprised by the event, and impressed by the results! See you next Tuesday? |
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| Author: | Spaulding [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 10:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
Anybody ever have their mouth washed out with soap? I feel like I used to get that all the time, I have no idea how many times it actually happened. Whenever I watched A Christmas story I think of it. It had no effect on me. bigfan wrote: My nephew would take 5 smacks anyday of the week, over taking away his Ipad, XBox and TV. The only thing is that what I have seen is the Ipads and such are given to the kids as an extended pacifier, so when the Ipad is taken away they bug the parents so much, that the threat of no Ipad for a week, becomes 3 hours! There are times when I feel like my kids don't know what to do with themselves if they are not occupied by something organized or staring at some sort of screen. They miss out on so much. |
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| Author: | bigfan [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 10:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
My sister uses the "I will take the IPad away for ______"....and then she takes it away, then they bug the crap out of her and she gives it back. Very effective! |
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| Author: | leashyourkids [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 10:24 pm ] |
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bigfan wrote: My sister uses the "I will take the IPad away for ______"....and then she takes it away, then they bug the crap out of her and she gives it back. Very effective! I don't have kids yet (so I'm not qualified to discuss), but from my observations, follow through is one of the biggest assets parents lack. No consequences equals no results. |
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| Author: | Spaulding [ Wed Sep 17, 2014 10:29 pm ] |
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bigfan wrote: My sister uses the "I will take the IPad away for ______"....and then she takes it away, then they bug the crap out of her and she gives it back. Very effective! Can't do that. I can be a little fire and brimstoneish at times. My husband is super patient and has a very calm way about him. Actions have consequences, doesn't get him mad, both work. it's hard, they don't have directions, what works for one doesn't work for the other. They can make you so mad too, especially if other things are going on. It's crazy, you never really know if you are doing theright thing. |
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| Author: | Bagels [ Thu Sep 18, 2014 7:01 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Cards on the table time: Have you slapped your kids? |
i have slapped my dog on the nose before, yes |
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