you got one with daddy issues, freaks in bed and their low self-esteem means you'd have to murder their mother two times --no, wait, kill my mother one more time and I'm outta here, swear to god--before they'd consider hitting the road.
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| Author: | RFDC [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Deadbeats |
My wife's father left her mom when she was pregnant with her. Alcohol, gambling, and other women were more important to him. Over the next few years he made zero effort to see my wife or her sisters. When my wife turned 21 years old she got a birthday card in the mail that had a dollar in it. One FUCKING dollar to your daughter on a her 21st birthday after you have stiffed the family for any child support. My wife pretty much wrote him off for good after that and has had no contact with him. This morning she gets a message from a family member that says her father wants to know if it would be ok if they could be facebook friends. He would like to see how things are going for her. Are fucking kidding me?!?!?!? 40 years after you have a daughter you suddenly decide now that you want to be facebook friends???? You cannot spend any effort or money on getting to know your children and now all of a sudden you want to be facebook friend? Fuck you, you are an absolute piece of shit and if I ever have the opportunity to meet you in person I am going tell you that to your face. |
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| Author: | Hussra [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
you got one with daddy issues, freaks in bed and their low self-esteem means you'd have to murder their mother two times --no, wait, kill my mother one more time and I'm outta here, swear to god--before they'd consider hitting the road.
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| Author: | IMU [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Also...Facebook friend isn't the same as joining the family. As you get older, you realize you may have some regrets. And you may try to repair what you can. What is the harm? |
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| Author: | Seacrest [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. |
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| Author: | IMU [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. 2 for $5 Beef n Cheddars |
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| Author: | Chus [ Sun May 04, 2014 6:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
immessedup17 wrote: Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. 2 for $5 Beef n Cheddars http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vxQqdFOeoM |
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| Author: | Baby McNown [ Sun May 04, 2014 7:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Never realized you married Joe Walsh's daughter |
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| Author: | lipidquadcab [ Sun May 04, 2014 7:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. Super serious Don Henley agrees...  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncF6q3QeltU I've been tryin' to get down to the Heart of the Matter But my will gets weak And my thoughts seem to scatter But I think it's about forgiveness Forgiveness Even if, even if you don't love me anymore |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
immessedup17 wrote: Also...Facebook friend isn't the same as joining the family. As you get older, you realize you may have some regrets. And you may try to repair what you can. What is the harm? Well now that I have had some time to cool off and think it over, I understand what you are saying. There is no harm in it and forgiveness is always a good thing. However, if you get to a point in life where you have regrets and want to repair a relationship with your child then you should pick up the phone and call them or at least do something that is a little more personal than sending a message via another family member. I just do not understand how a father of children could just walk away from them and every 20 years or so throw them a bone. It is pathetic to me. I have told my wife I will support whatever she wants to do in this situation. I will understand if she wants to tell him to go fuck himself and I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. |
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| Author: | Nas [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. Birth of a child Great sex |
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| Author: | Nas [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: immessedup17 wrote: Also...Facebook friend isn't the same as joining the family. As you get older, you realize you may have some regrets. And you may try to repair what you can. What is the harm? Well now that I have had some time to cool off and think it over, I understand what you are saying. There is no harm in it and forgiveness is always a good thing. However, if you get to a point in life where you have regrets and want to repair a relationship with your child then you should pick up the phone and call them or at least do something that is a little more personal than sending a message via another family member. I just do not understand how a father of children could just walk away from them and every 20 years or so throw them a bone. It is pathetic to me. I have told my wife I will support whatever she wants to do in this situation. I will understand if she wants to tell him to go fuck himself and I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. She doesn't have to let him into her life but forgiving him and moving beyond it would be a relief for her. |
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| Author: | Seacrest [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Nas wrote: Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. Birth of a child Great sex Birth of a child, yes. But the ability to forgive someone who has so terribly wronged you, or abandoned you, or beaten you or abused you in some way, is like dropping a large weight in that has weighed you down since it happened. |
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| Author: | Telegram Sam [ Sun May 04, 2014 8:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. I believe a strong case was made in the "alcohol, gambling, and other women" portion of RFDC's post. Also, someone needs to post something about Glenn Frey now. |
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| Author: | Seacrest [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
immessedup17 wrote: Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. 2 for $5 Beef n Cheddars The depth of your personality is virtually limitless. |
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| Author: | Seacrest [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:01 pm ] |
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Telegram Sam wrote: Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. I believe a strong case was made in the "alcohol, gambling, and other women" portion of RFDC's post. I think you can make a stronger case that people turn to those things when forgiveness is elusive. |
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| Author: | KDdidit [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: immessedup17 wrote: Also...Facebook friend isn't the same as joining the family. As you get older, you realize you may have some regrets. And you may try to repair what you can. What is the harm? Well now that I have had some time to cool off and think it over, I understand what you are saying. There is no harm in it and forgiveness is always a good thing. However, if you get to a point in life where you have regrets and want to repair a relationship with your child then you should pick up the phone and call them or at least do something that is a little more personal than sending a message via another family member. I just do not understand how a father of children could just walk away from them and every 20 years or so throw them a bone. It is pathetic to me. I have told my wife I will support whatever she wants to do in this situation. I will understand if she wants to tell him to go fuck himself and I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. I wouldn't go so far as to say there's no harm in it, I would think if he's still an asshole there could be some negatives. I'd still say it's a risk worth taking, but you never know. |
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| Author: | badrogue17 [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. Maybe he's ashamed of his dwarfism and that's why he stayed away?
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| Author: | Telegram Sam [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
badrogue17 wrote: RFDC wrote: I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. Maybe he's ashamed of his dwarfism and that's why he stayed away?
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| Author: | Chus [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:13 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
badrogue17 wrote: RFDC wrote: I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. Maybe he's ashamed of his dwarfism and that's why he stayed away?Vertically challenged American. |
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| Author: | Darkside [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Maybe he needs money |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:36 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Darkside wrote: Maybe he needs money I will send him a buck in a fathers day card |
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| Author: | Darkside [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
I wasn't kidding. Have a similar situation. After YEARS got a phone call, "Oh Dee DoubleYew I love you so much miss you you don't understand how hard it was for me please forgive me I love you by the way can I borrow $6,000 I'm in some trouble." |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Sun May 04, 2014 9:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Darkside wrote: I wasn't kidding. Have a similar situation. After YEARS got a phone call, "Oh Dee DoubleYew I love you so much miss you you don't understand how hard it was for me please forgive me I love you by the way can I borrow $6,000 I'm in some trouble." yeah, I can guarantee you if that is the case then that will forever slam the door shut in my wifes mind. No way in the world we are giving the guy money |
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| Author: | veganfan21 [ Sun May 04, 2014 10:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
badrogue17 wrote: RFDC wrote: I will understand if she wants to open a small door to interact with him. Maybe he's ashamed of his dwarfism and that's why he stayed away?
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| Author: | Seacrest [ Sun May 04, 2014 10:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: Darkside wrote: Maybe he needs money I will send him a buck in a fathers day card Send him an IOU then. |
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| Author: | Furious Styles [ Sun May 04, 2014 11:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Have him write a 500-word essay - double spaced - stating his case for inclusion. This should allow you the time to complete a thorough background/public records search. |
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| Author: | Rod [ Mon May 05, 2014 7:03 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: You cannot spend any effort or money on getting to know your children and now all of a sudden you want to be facebook friend? Killer app. |
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| Author: | good dolphin [ Mon May 05, 2014 7:52 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
RFDC wrote: Alcohol, gambling, and other women were more important to him. . They are more important to all of us, fancy pants. |
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| Author: | IMU [ Mon May 05, 2014 9:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
Seacrest wrote: immessedup17 wrote: Seacrest wrote: If there is a greater life experience than true forgiveness, then I have yet to discover it. 2 for $5 Beef n Cheddars The depth of your personality is virtually limitless. I'm assuming you're complimenting me as a multi-faceted individual. Many thanks. |
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| Author: | RFDC [ Tue May 20, 2014 4:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Deadbeats |
update: My wife accepted his friend request. Sent him a message asking him nicely why after all these years he decided he want to reach out to her. So far he has not answered. He has also sent a friend request to my high school daughter, which led to a good discussion. So I guess that was productive. I am hopeful the guy just wants to make things right in his old age. If he has some type of ulterior motives I just might lose it. |
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