Don't try to fix her. Embrace her strengths and her faults and she will be more likely to embrace your faults.

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."

Only men who don't know what the hell they are doing let the women hold the cards.

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lollercoaster of schadenfreude! yeah basically the most brilliant part about the long troll that's been perpetually unleashed on me over the last ~6 months is the built-in plausible deniability of it all! whenever i'm dumb enough to talk about the goofy shit that i've experienced, i look like a goddamn pathetic delusional "stalker" or something. lulz ensue.

ah well.... win some, lose many. check back with me in a few years and i'll let you know if i''m don quixote or don johnson crooning heartbeat at hipster karaoke in nyc =P

...and women only hold the cards if you embrace gender roles and "play the game." granted, most people aren't as ready as i am to suppress visceral human nature for the sake of principle, ergo the colloquialism "jagoff" being used as a derogatory term in our society's greater vernacular lexicon.

"i had to break up with my girlfriend recently.... we had religious issues. she didn't think that i was god" - artie lange on some ol #realtalk

aka



this.

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A good man knows there are many cards out there, you don't have to stick to the 7 of spades.

This is true.


What the hell does this mean?

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There are many women out there if your woman doesn't know how to act.


I don't know, what the hell you asking me for?

beervendor is right.

Always let her know it wouldn't take much for you to be back "in play".

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When you lose your ability to catch fish, you lose yourself as a man.

Trust me, she knows that I can do well for myself. But I also know that she could too. That keeps both of us from taking the other for granted.

Any guy (or girl) who deludes themselves into thinking that they're the only catch out there has an overinflated sense of self importance. If you fuck up trust me, she can and will find someone else. Both parties need to always be willing do the work necessary to keep a relationship afloat. And it is work. And it's never-ending.

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"Cowabunga? Cowa fucking piece of dog shit! This game is diarrhea coming out of my dick!"

Beervendor is divorced right?

I try and stay away from divorced guys while taking marriage advice.

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I'm getting a lot of the grief from the new gf for never talking to her on the phone. I told her I loathe talking on the phone and that our work schedules make it damn near impossible, but she brought it up again on Sunday.

How often do you see each other in person?

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"Cowabunga? Cowa fucking piece of dog shit! This game is diarrhea coming out of my dick!"

Once a week.

Yeah, see...that once a week thing can be tricky. You might just want to consider compromising and talking a little more on the phone. It doesn't have to be a long conversation, but just a "how was your day" sort of thing just to make her feel special. That stuff really matters and if she's brought it up to you before, trust me it's important to her.

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"Cowabunga? Cowa fucking piece of dog shit! This game is diarrhea coming out of my dick!"

I can't wait until the next time I see Mrs. Spanky again so I can repeat this to her.

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Do what you need to do. You know the truth.

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Just kidding, don't say anything.
She thinks I quit the board.

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Happily married, 10yrs.

I never said that one should think they are the only catch. If he/she forgets that you can still catch fish, you start to get comfortable and that also can not be a good thing.

Agreed 100%.


Hi Vendor.

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I would agree with this too.

SInce were bringing up our relationships besides my other issue right now, has anybody ever had to deal with the other's ex.

My lady's last boyfriend, got her to move to the town, but when she got here she started to open her eyes, and then I will just say he did a Top 5 sin in a relationship. Let's just say she said he was old school in something and they broke up, but she cut her finger earlier this year, and I put a Band-aid on it.

Well I found out, I guess he threw a hissy-fit when he found out I bandaged her finger.

I was starting to win her over, hopefully still, but should I worry about the ex doing something dangerous.

I'm having a hard time deciding what I am going to have for dinner, Deep Dish pizza with cheese fries or Popeyes Chicken with 5 buttery biscuits and 2 sides. Besides that, everything is great.

Should I read this thread?

Seriously.

Check with your wife

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I think I've given some good advice. It's mostly common sense stuff, but still.

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I did, with a girl I dated last year.

When we started talking, she was about a month out of a long-term relationship with this guy so I was reluctant to get involved anyway. At first I said I just wanted to be cool, but she said she was ready and she really liked me. But then after about a month, I realized that she still had feelings for the dude. Plus the motherfucker was crazy. Dude flipped out when he found out she was chilling with me. Motherfucker called my phone and everything (she said he snuck into her purse and took my number from her phone). After that, I was done. I told her I was moving on and that she had a lot to learn. Then I met my current GF a couple of weeks later and the rest was history.

I kinda feel bad about how quickly I dismissed her, but I'm not into the drama and shit. I stopped talking to her in December of last year, and up until March she was still texting and calling me without me responding to any of it. I was happy when she finally got the picture.

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I read your first post. I disagree with the "offer feedback" advice.

They don't want it. They want an ear. An ear only.

That's it. Speak not. Shed a tear.

Thanks for the advice Kid, she doesn't want to be with the guy, I know if I do get to start with the girl, we will have to deal with him and hopefully that goes smoothly.

BeerVendor is married to the game without a prenup