A close family friend, their son, is getting married on Saturday. Its in Monmouth, which is about 3-3.5 hours west of here. Its been planned since August because they wanted to get married with Christmas decor still up in the town/church. The reception is at a dance club that the family owns. Buffet dinner, bartenders will only be there for a little while, after that its serve yourself.

We are supposed to close on a house tomorrow. Wanted to close after the first of the year, but the seller's said no dice to that, so its tomorrow. Because of that, my fiancee and I are not going to the wedding, though we did RSVP yes. Obviously cleaning a new place and moving in is a lot of work, and I only have 1 vacation day left until March so this has to be done on nights and weekends.

I've talked to the groom and his mom (who is my Godmother), and they are understanding and both said no problem. They seemed genuine about saying that as well. I will still be sending a gift. Probably a little more $ since I won't be paying for gas for a hotel room.

Both of my parents and my sister, on the other hand, are quite upset that we are not going. They said its the "right thing to do" because of them being a family friend. Which I understand, but disagree with.

So.....what are your thoughts on the matter?

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It's fine. Nothing wrong with your decision. They'll get over it...

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Unless it's a close family member (brother, sister, etc..), who gives a shit?

Send a gift and best wishes, and move on.

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You have shit to do that is more important. He is not immediate family. In ten years, that kid won't give a shit if you were at his wedding. The only thing they really care about it getting the $$$ gift, which you are still giving.

I think you have to go.

You do not want to upset the other founding members of The Blend.

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I see nothing wrong with you not going, especially since you only knew about it since August. They'll get over it. I'm sure plenty of people are also going to skip out on a wedding over New Years weekend for reasons much worse than yours.

Congrats on the house. Everyone but MattInTheCrown is happy for you.

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

if you go, i wouldn't go to the bathroom the entire time you were there

send a gift, and be glad you did not have to go

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You obviously should go.

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^^^ That's probably the most accurate call on the whole deal.

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Power is always in the hands of the masses of men. What oppresses the masses is their own ignorance, their own short-sighted selfishness.
- Henry George

Pay February's mortgage at the closing as well for the tax break.

As for the wedding, a check is better than your presence. You are doing them a favor by not going.

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O judgment! Thou art fled to brutish beasts,
And men have lost their reason.

Franks not that bad...

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You're starting a new chapter in your life. Look out for yourself.

Families expect too much sometimes and see this as you "breaking away" for a lack of a better phrase. Small-town friends/relatives don't understand - not that I have any experience with any of this.

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Sex isn't dirty, sex isn't a crime. It's a loving act between two or more consenting adults.

-Hank Kingsley

Sure, all the selfish people telling you to forget it. The wedding is a unique experience. One day isn't gonna matter in your move. Be the bigger man.

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You are doing the right thing Frank. Your future wife and your future are more important than a friends wedding. You talked to them, and they understand. As someone else said in 10 years no one will care.

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."

In 10 years he and his wife will not remember what room they cleaned or what decorations they put up that night

Well then why don't you offer to help Frank move?

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Sex isn't dirty, sex isn't a crime. It's a loving act between two or more consenting adults.

-Hank Kingsley

whoa, that's a big step in a relationship..

He ain't driving me to the airport!

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Frank could certainly ask his offended family members to help him move so he can go to the wedding. That might shut them up.

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Help Frank. Be the bigger man. God knows he doesn't ask for much!

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Sex isn't dirty, sex isn't a crime. It's a loving act between two or more consenting adults.

-Hank Kingsley

Vintage.

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Close and start the move on Friday.
Wedding on Saturday.
Finish moving Sunday.

Unless you are moving stuff from a 4,000 square foot mansion, what's the big deal?

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"I honestly don't see a good bet on the board here."

Send them a blender and bang your fiance in every room of the new house on Saturday.

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The 7-8 hours of windshield time on Sat and Sun.

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Getting married in Butfuck,Illinois is ignant. Fuck 'em. I love these ignorant assholes who want their special wedding in some distant location,then expect everyone to show up. Bad enough you have to give them a envelope full of cash.

Good Luck on your house!

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favrefan said:"Chris Coghlan isn't gonna pay your rent, Jimmy."

eh...this is a difficult one, but if it were me I would likely not go to the wedding. There are few things that trump a wedding, this would be one of them in my opinion.
Just don't be surprised when they can't make yours.

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@audioidkid

Who gives a shit as long as they send the $$$.

You close on your new home Friday, then you should go to the Wedding Saturday. Youll have other days to clean your new house. Seems pretty simple to me.

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We don’t have a trillion-dollar debt because we haven’t taxed enough; we have a trillion-dollar debt because we spend too much. — Ronald Reagan

That was classic. Frank-you said you were going to go to the wedding in your RSVP, so now it's a matter of being a man of your word.....or not. If you choose not to go, you are probably doing the other guests a favor, but as someone mentioned, don't be surprised if others blow off your wedding when they need to scrub the gravel in the fish tank....re-arrange their sock drawer......etc. You can close on Friday and begin moving stuff, then finish on Sunday. I wouldn't be surprised if you are expecting people from out of town to attend your wedding and either drive a long distance or even fly in for the event.....Treat these people as you would hope to be treated.

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