I've been divorced for about a month now and I'm starting to feel that emptiness that comes with not being in a relationship; after 5 years of working, school, and my wife, I have a big void in my life that I need to fill. I don't really have any friends; I have one but she's married and I see her maybe once a month. What I'm looking to do is to get out and make friends; I've been to a sports bar that's good for the Bears, but I'm looking for bars that draw crowds for the other teams. I'm also rusty at the dating game; I'm 34 so I think I've outgrown the clubs and I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions where the best places are to starting dating again.

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

Frank Drebin....Are you tired of the nagging???? The cold shoulder???? The singles bars????

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I've been to plenty of strip clubs here and overseas, Phil; got tired of them.

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

5 years Frank? Well at least you gave it the old college try

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Proud member of the white guy grievance committee

It aint the six minutes. Its what happens in those six minutes.

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That's my purse! I don't know you!

I would guess online is the best answer?

Hell just keep refreshing this thread and you'll probably get ad-banners for all the sites.

Call Of Duty.

Tons of girls with mics on there.

Whereabouts do you live?

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Proud member of the white guy grievance committee

It aint the six minutes. Its what happens in those six minutes.

I meant Bulls, Hawks, Cubs, Sox

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

Southside near Midway

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

Online dating isn't a bad option.
In terms of friends, I'm rather introverted/socially awkward so I can understand where you are coming from so here's an idea: go to a board outing. I went to one and everyone was pretty cool. If I was living in Chicago, I would go to more.

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I'm in a similar situation, though I have a few friends left


Join a coed league of some sort (bowling, softball, darts)

All the Problems you listed....solved


You're welcome

I prefer my own company most of all


To me online dating = dating but easier

You could probably find some good Hawks bars but they will probably be full of crusty old guys. You're the same age as me so I would say if there are some good micro brew focused bars around you I would hit up those. They tend to get a diverse crowd and have more of a community feel to them. Since beer is the focus it is a built in icebreaker.

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That's my purse! I don't know you!

I wanted to go to the McNugget challenge but I had to drive to Missouri that day...I have the weekends off now so I will definitely attend some of them.

Appreciate it man.

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

backpage.com or http://www.yelp.com/c/chicago/churches

Babydoll Polka Club.

Bingo games,when you are grocery shopping look around talk to a few.
I was going to say get your ass to church

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When I am stuck and need to figure something out I always remember the Immortal words of Socrates when he said:"I just drank what?"

Bingo,church and the grocery store?? I must have missed where he said he was looking for a 70 year old blue hair.

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That's my purse! I don't know you!

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

CSFMB should meet at TWIN PEAKS in Wheeling:

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favrefan said:"Chris Coghlan isn't gonna pay your rent, Jimmy."

Online dating didn't really work for me, but I'm a hermit.

One of my cousins actually met his now wife online, so for somewhat normal people I guess it can work.

Online dating to me always carried a negative stigma but as I have gotten older this seems like a more viable option...

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

You like wrestling so go find the gym the R Pro girls workout at.

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That's my purse! I don't know you!

Thanks man; appreciate the advice.

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

Sounds like stalking...I only do that for one girl

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

oh my

She can get on her knees with her tongue out any time for me

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."

Mr. Drebin,

Start living your life the way you want to. Go see some concerts, get a regular social calendar. Make a friend with a bartender. Ask them when and where all the white women at?? And ladies of all backgrounds for that matter. Start doing stuff by yourself, then when you meet or develop a dialogue with the chicks out there do the following. Say to potential date, "I'm going to (fill in the blank), who you like to join me?" The thought process here is guys will only go if a girl joins them. Fuck that bullshit. You are going to where ever and inviting them to join you. Start buying two concert/game/event tickets if you can. That is key, you are doing stuff and asking them to come along. The "I'll only go if I have a date, and won't if I am riding solo", that is a losers mentality.

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CSFMB: Home of the small minded

Thanks for the advice don...trying to get out more by buying tickets to see the Bulls, Hawks, and WWE over the next 3 months. Will try the invitation tactic when the time is right.

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Sherman remarked, "Well, Grant, we've had the devil's own day, haven't we?" Grant looked up. "Yes," he replied, followed by a puff. "Yes. Lick 'em tomorrow, though."

I'm married (no kids) but don't really go out anymore. Virtually Every Friday August through May I'm occupied with coaching. Most of my friends have little kids and don't go out much now. Others have moved away and I lost touch with. Sat nights when my wife is off we go out, when she works I tend to drink on my couch. I dread the summer and the idle time since I stopped playing softball three years ago. Started golfing again do to shear boredom towards middle of summer this year so maybe next summer will increase that.

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Her girlfriend says the same thing.

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