I didn't have time for examples, but here are a couple:
father of a six month old after just taking them to Disneyworld for a week wrote:
Advice to new parents:
There will be people who question why you do certain things with your child, especially travel. Why do something your infant or toddler will never remember?
Ignore these people.
Measure the value of the experience in the joy on your child's face, not the memories your child may or may not make.
Your memories of that joy have value.
Life is short, all too short. Do what you think will bring joy into your family's life (within reason). Make magic now, not some imagined future that may never exist.
idiot mother of a four month old who graduated with a 1.7 gpa and bitches her degree will not get her in grad school wrote:
It is interesting that in recent years “self-soothing” has become an ideal in the pediatric advice to mothers. It is said to be a good thing that a child is able to “self-soothe”. This is stated particularly in relation to breastfeeding. “Do not breastfeed your baby to sleep”, the experts say. But why? Well, basically because that child no longer makes demands on the parents, particularly the mother. After all, a baby who breastfeeds to sleep will continue to want to breastfeed to sleep and that is meant to be inconvenient. It is true that babies can be inconvenient to our lifestyle. But our lifestyle can be very damaging to babies and perhaps we need to rethink what we do while raising children. The fact that in the long run it is easier to breastfeed a baby to sleep, the fact that babies and toddlers love this and often so do mothers is ignored. The idea is to render the child “independent” as if forcing “independence” is a good thing. However, independence that is forced is not true independence; independence that comes out of security is. The self-soothing” approach is applied to carrying of babies. “If you carry your baby, he won’t be able to self-soothe. He won’t be able to do without you. He won’t become independent.” This is just so much nonsense. Babies were made to be carried and babies should be carried and they will, as they get older, want to be carried less and less. And eventually they will want to be carried only when they are tired. It will happen more rapidly than you expect. And maybe you will even miss carrying them.
I cannot count how many times in the last four months I've been warned about "spoiling" the baby. This is pretty much my stance on such notions. Those who think otherwise can lecture me until they're blue in the face - if I'm still carrying Dylan around in sling or wrap when he's going to college orientation, I'll eat my hat.
_________________
Krazy Ivan wrote:
Congrats on being better than me, Psycory.