Some friend you must be.

I'm starting to see what IMU is saying

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O judgment! Thou art fled to brutish beasts,
And men have lost their reason.

I've known too many people that have to walk around on eggshells every day and pretend to be interested in things they aren't in order to keep their wife "happy" so that they can pretend to be "happy". They literally need permission from their wife to do anything that they want to do.

That's a miserable way to live.

I'd rather stumble into somebody that I can actually be good friends with and do the same fun activities together.

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Good friend and best friend are not the same.

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O judgment! Thou art fled to brutish beasts,
And men have lost their reason.

Usually first one is a trial marriage so you can get it right next time

That his idea of friendship is one of comfort and longevity. He'll make friends now or in the future but they'll never be as good as the friends he's had all his life. "I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone?" - holds true for him. They know him and accept him without much change and without needing him for something.

The idea of a "best friend" is strange. You have a wide variety of friends with different interests and different things in common with you, right? I am closer to some friends than others, and I have many friends who fade in and out due to life circumstances. I think that, in a wife, you're really just looking for someone who isn't repulsed by you when you piss your pants because you drank too much and who occasionally laughs at your stupid jokes out of pity. #love

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I agree with your first part:

My best friend from grammar school was not my best friend in junior high.
My best friend from junior high was not my best friend in high school.
My best friend from high school was not my best friend in college.
My best friend from college is not my best friend after marriage.
Etc......
Gotta be honest, seemingly only weirdos would have the same best friend through all those stages of life. That's not normal.....we all change SOOOO much......I can't think of somebody I know that had the same best friend through all of those stages.
People change.
That's part of growing up.

I strongly disagree with the bolded part. I don't think I've ever pissed my pants, but if I did, she'd be right there with me and love every second of it. "Repulsed" isn't something that really comes up with us. And I think my wife and genuinely make each other laugh. It's not pity.

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I have to weigh in with Team dolphin on this one. My relationship with my wife is something beyond friendship. She takes the wheel when I'm seeing double, she pays my ticket when I speed. But my best friend is the guy who is going to listen to me cry when she divorces my dumb ass.

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Anybody here seen my old friend Bobby?
Can you tell me where he's gone?
I thought I saw him walkin' up to The Hill
With Matthew, Tulsi, and Don

very good point.

Are you anticipating this event?

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."

So you are sober, driving Spanky's bus, until your wife may divorce you.

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Well, it was said in jest, so I wasn't really looking for agreement.

Look, if you enjoy your wife that much, more power to you. You lucked out. Men and women are very different creatures, and, in terms of functioning in daily life, I feel that a man and a woman can compliment each other very well. But I also think those differences would make it hard for me to ever have a female "best friend." I'm not even sure what the term means. If you're saying you'd rather hang out with your wife than anyone else no matter what you are doing, I find that a little odd. There are some things I enjoy doing with my wife, but she's not going to be my first choice when I'm going to, say, a sporting event, just as I wouldn't be her first choice when she goes to a fuckin' wine and painting party. Again, good for you if your wife and you are that close, but I find it hard to believe in this idealized "BFF wife" that's straight out of a cheesy romance novel.

I had my wife read that entire paragraph before submitting, and she said she's in total agreement. That's love.

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Thread over.

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Gheyest! Baseball! Thread! Ever!

That's why it's in the Cubbie thread

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Props to JORR for the sugar magnolia reference. And yeah, him, dolphin, and leash are right here.

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Fare you well, fare you well
I love you more than words can tell
Listen to the river sing sweet songs
To rock my soul

Indeed

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I'm not married so I really can't pick sides on the wife being your best friend. I think Spanky's revolving best friend door is weird. I've never been one to throw around the best friend label but I've known my closest friends for at least 17 years and most since I was 8. You change in many ways but there is a bond there that can't be broken. It's very difficult to build that with someone you met last year.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

Yeah, his "only weirdos have the same best friend since grade school" take was strange. Never heard that one before.

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Fare you well, fare you well
I love you more than words can tell
Listen to the river sing sweet songs
To rock my soul

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Good people drink good beer - Hunter S. Thompson

<º)))><

Waiting for the time when I can finally say
That this has all been wonderful, but now I'm on my way

I can't believe nobody is talking about this napalm strike that Spanky delivered to Chris In Joliet.

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Like GD said, there is a difference between "good friends" and "best friend". You can't have more than 1 best friend, right? Groups of friends do not count in this.

This is being over-thought. People move, people change, people grow up. I can't believe most people have the same, singular "best friend" for that long in their life.

We may be using the term "best friend" differently. I don't mean "oldest friend" that I share memories with that I don't have with anybody else. But I don't know anybody in my personal life that is "best friends" with anybody from elementary school. Or middle school. Or.....
If just one person moves at some point in their life, how can you possibly maintain that status?

The person I'd prefer to do the things I do on a regular basis with (go to sporting events, concerts, out to eat, travel, hang out and do nothing, etc) - that's a best friend, right?
People I need to confide in for important life decisions - that's a best friend, right?

People I'd rather golf with, etc - those are friends. Even if we did those things 20 years ago.

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You had to marry someone before you could enjoy going out to eat or to a Cubs game? Sorry bruh.

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Rick Hahn is the best GM in baseball.

Reading is hard.
Maybe have your GF read it to you.....



....oh wait.
Read it slowly next to your grill.

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Maybe he ate his wife out? She liked it. Still the wife.

Help me out - what is your angle? I only had one girlfriend in the last calendar year? Oh no! I'm destined to be alone!

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What's your angle?

I never went to a Cubs game before I got married or went out to eat?

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You're saying you didn't enjoy them as much as with your buddies? That seems disingenuous. Let's throw going out to eat out the window. I could understand that. I'd rather go out to eat with a ladyfriend too. But maybe not because the dinner would be more enjoyable?

I'm focusing on the sporting event thing.

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You should stick to racial slurs. They're more amusing.

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What's your angle? Are you telling me who I would have more fun going to a sporting event with?

By the way, we throwing "go out to eat" out of the window now??
You posted this 5 responses ago:



Oh, let's just throw that out now. It doesn't count. (PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE!)
Make up your mind.

10:30 pm

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Yes. I don't recall your wife as being a heavy sports fan. Most people have fun going to sporting events with other fans.

Is that incorrect?

When I get tickets behind home plate, I'm bringing Cubs fan buddies before a girlfriend. When I didn't line up buddies, I then brought a girlfriend.

I'll bring a girlfriend (or wife) to the Sugar Factory. Or the Arboretum.

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