Been dating this girl since last September, she lives in another state.

She's crazy pretty, great fun to be around, smaht and all that; but she's young, too young for me and the long-distance thing.

We're going to new york next weekend. At least we're supposed to. Both airfares (southwest, so no change fees), hotel, concert and broadway shows and tourist-pass attraction things all bought and pre-paid for (about $3K total). She's very excited to go to new york city, she's never been. I've been to new york many a time, great place.

Anyhow, I don't see this whole thing working out. And plan on conveying that to her sooner than later.

Should I still go to nyc with her next weekend? if we go to nyc together and then a few weeks later that's it, seems like a shit thing for her. gnomesayin. i could tell her ahead of time and she could go to new york with a friend or something instead.

who's $3K?

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Reality is your friend, not your enemy. -- Seacrest

used to be mine.

you might change your mind about her after a couple days in NY? help solidify your decision.

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Reality is your friend, not your enemy. -- Seacrest

Email drinky and see if he wants to go in your stead.

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Power is always in the hands of the masses of men. What oppresses the masses is their own ignorance, their own short-sighted selfishness.
- Henry George

nah, we've spent plenty of time together. it is what it is and it's not gonna be any more after next weekend, one way or the other.

She's never been before. Dont ruin her first trip to NYC by dumping her right before. Take her there, show her a good time and then slowly fade out afterwards. Hell, after taking a trip with you; SHE might be the one to decide it isnt working out.

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I don't think anyone owes anyone else an explicit explanation of their long term intentions. This isn't the Victorian era. For all you know she's riding along with you because you're a fun guy with lots of disposable cash. Maybe she's telling her friends, "This is fun for now, but I know it isn't going anywhere. That fucker is old!" Live in the moment. Allow relationships to develop organically rather than looking for levels like a video game.

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Anybody here seen my old friend Bobby?
Can you tell me where he's gone?
I thought I saw him walkin' up to The Hill
With Elon, Tulsi, and Don

Just keep it alive until she ends it. It's always worked for me!

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It's the Terri Schiavo case all over again.

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Power is always in the hands of the masses of men. What oppresses the masses is their own ignorance, their own short-sighted selfishness.
- Henry George

Ride it out.

that's spot on, at least how it started.

Just go man. Have a good time. Don't be a Danny downer the whole trip either. Try to act like a good friend w/ benefits instead of a boyfriend.

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I'll be honest, I'm having a little trouble reckoning with Hussra being a human being with feelings and not just a mysterious UNVERIFIED evil genius.

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emotions on the sleeve kinda guy. i'm a bright eyes fan, ffs.

my motto is don't waste time with a woman you wouldn't consider marrying.

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Reality is your friend, not your enemy. -- Seacrest

Get her pregnant. That will solve all issues.

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

True. Besides don't spend $3k on someone you are going to dump.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

You gotta have fun too. Just be up front and tell her you aren't looking for anything serious.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

you can have fun with a woman you would consider marrying.

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Reality is your friend, not your enemy. -- Seacrest

eh, other than her airfare and her tickets to the shows/concerts/attractions/museums (tho those are mostly pay what ya like in new york), the rest is what i'd pay to go even if i was going solo.

That's true but you have a different kind of fun with women you know that you could never seriously date. You should have fun when you are single. You'll recognize the women that have marriage potential.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

i'm talking about the girls after one date you say SHE SURE IS FUN BUT THERE'S NO DAMN WAY I'D MARRY HER!

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Reality is your friend, not your enemy. -- Seacrest

do i tell her it's not going to continue after new york when we're on top the Empire State building watching the sun set beyond the Hudson River the first night we're there? Or on the uber ride back to LaGuardia the following week?

I'll prolly tell her when we're both mad drunk at 3 AM at some lower east side dive. If any of those still exist. I hope Fish Bar is still there.

Just bang her a few times per day, get it out of your system.


Did you out kick your coverage with this chick?

Central Park. That way you can run in any direction.

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

Wait until you get back. You may change your mind.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

early forties, paunchy, hairline receding like the ocean before a tsunami--any chick i date is out-kicking my coverage.

Call in a tip about her before you board the plane back home ... let the US Marshals fix your problem.

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Power is always in the hands of the masses of men. What oppresses the masses is their own ignorance, their own short-sighted selfishness.
- Henry George

awesome idea. and then i could saunter through security with a kilo in my shorts b/c they'll be busy shaking her down.