I find it pretty interesting that the married guys seem pretty evenly split on this.

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actually, just one question.

Why the fuck would you do that?

Rachel wouldn't do it anyway..

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I mean, I'll probably ask the question, but I can't control another human being.

People cheat during the day now to avoid these situations.

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It is commonsense my friend.

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In this scenario, she would not be cheating. She would probably just want to have a nice dinner without getting at least one drink spilled on her.

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I try to never say never about anyone. None of us are perfect therefore we all leave some opening for the right person to exploit. I understand your overall point and agree.

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I can't say that I've ALWAYS been a perfect man.

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I don't think it's common considering the significant divide in opinion on this.

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I'm having lunch on Monday with a female friend I've known since college. We dated for quite a bit then.

She's been married for almost 30 years, has three kids. We have lunch about every two years when I have to pass through her part of the country for work.

She was good in bed then, she's probably even better now, and other than for this thread it never would have been a thought.

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She was absolutely right. Besides IF you're going to cheat the smart thing to do is cheat with someone who has something to lose.

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Don Draper smiles reading this

This has been a very eye-opening thread. I appreciate the candor.

if your wife doesn't question the motives of another man asking her out 1 on 1 for dinner, then she is a moron...and you should get divorced.

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My wife is the boss. There have been many times where she has stayed late because somebody wanted to talk about something. There has never been a dinner, but if it happened once, I wouldn't think twice about it. If a guy asked a second time, I would start to question his motives, but more importantly, she would too, and it wouldn't get to that point. She wants to come home after work.



This is another unlikely scenario. I highly doubt that one of my friends will ever call her and ask her out to dinner, but if some scenario played out where they ate dinner together, I wouldn't care. A few years back, a few friends and I went up to Kalamazoo, MI to see a concert. We checked into the hotel, and had some time to kill, as we were waiting for other friends to arrive. My buddy wasn't hungry, but his wife and I were, so we went downstairs to eat. We somehow managed to eat dinner without fucking. I told my wife that she and I had dinner. It wasn't an issue at all.




We have been together for sixteen years, and she dated a guy for six years before that, so there isn't a long past. This would be the most alarming of the scenarios, but ultimately, I trust her. Years ago, her ex's brother died in a car crash. She wanted to go visit the family, and of course, I had no problem with it. I told her that if she wanted to go to lunch or dinner with him sometime, I am fine with it. She didn't think he would want to, because he took the break-up pretty hard.


I say all of this as somebody who is in a strong relationship. We have been through a lot of shit together. Neither of us is throwing it away for some cheap thrill. We have great communication, and a healthy sex life. I suppose if any of this changed, my opinions may change as well.

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You're acting as though we don't feel the same way when the tables are turned. I do. I wouldn't go out to dinner with another woman unless there was an absolutely logical explanation (i.e. work trip with no other option). I would feel like I was disrespecting my wife if I was out gallivanting with another woman while she is at home putting my daughter to sleep and taking care of things.

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Completely agree. There is trust and then there is being a complete fucking idiot. You don't have to be a complete fucking idiot to prove that you trust someone.

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well put.

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what if you were out gallivanting with some dudes?

and maybe one thing led to another......?

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Oh, I totally agree on both accounts. Don't get me wrong: a big part of all of this is simple mutual respect and common courtesy. That's even before the question of "is this appropriate or not?"

Hell, if I went out with a male friend and didn't at least give my wife the head's up it would be disrespectful.

but, she wouldn't think you wanted to fuck him...


right?

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Wow. Those are some pretty harsh shots you are firing at Chus, Ugie, JORR, Hatchetman, W_Z, Frank Costanza, WaitingForRuffcorn, and wdelaney72.

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Yeah, but we all know those guys are sterile.

No, no and fuck no

This is a millenial mindset where you live in this utopia that is free from gender and urges and respect (and it doesn't exist). Everyone should love everyone else as much as they do their family and have complete trust and not think for a second that going on a date with someone else is the least bit disrespectful to their spouse.

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