sjboyd0137 wrote:
So my cousin (who is like a sister to me) is getting married July 6th...at the Planetarium...annoyed, but not my complaint. She has my daughter as her flower girl, and one of my other cousin's sons as a ring bearer. We've known all along that it's an adult only reception, but as we were told, except for the kids in the wedding. We had talked about my niece in Michigan coming over to stay and babysit the kids later in the night after dinner as we have a room reserved in the block of rooms for the wedding...we knew and informed them that wasn't happening as she's going on a family vacation with her parents and brother before he leaves for college in the fall, and they've scheduled it for that week. This was communicated to the bride to be back around Christmas. We've been working under the assumption that after dinner, when my kid got tired, one of us would head back to the room with the kid.
So we got the invitation in the mail. My wife was filling out the return card, and there wasn't mention of the kids' meal or anything. So my wife texts my cousin and is met with, "well, the kids are going back to the hotel after the ceremony, because your niece is going to watch them". Um, what?!?!
So what are the kids going to eat, was asked...met with "we'll make sure they have something". Um, okay. Who's babysitting, then? "we're still working on that". How are they getting back to the hotel from the ceremony? No response.
Logistically, if there is an acceptable babysitter found, whichever of us goes to take her back to the hotel will miss cocktail hour and likely dinner. All under the guise of doing this so the parents can enjoy the reception.
I wouldn't be pissed if this had been known up front. We would have already had plans and logistics in place. I'm not even all that pissed that we have to hustle her out after the ceremony.
What absolutely has me just pissed to the point that I don't give a damn if I'm even there, is that, as reinforced by the bride, my girly 4 year old has been pumped for this by being told that she gets to wear a dress, and walk down the aisle, be in charge of her younger cousin the ring bearer, then get to be in pictures, eat dinner, and dance a little before bed, and won't stop talking about all of that...is now reduced to a prop for a bunch of fucking wedding photos.
Reflect your feeling on the check you are giving them.
I am sort of having the same problem for a wedding come July. And the reception and Church are not close to each other.