Where are you moving?

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That sucks Frank. Been there with family issues before. It is really tough. Ultimately your wife and you need to agree that your relationship and your son is priority 1. But getting to that point can be awful. I have been through about every inlaw problem imaginable....if you need to vent feel free to PM me.

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."

It doesn't matter what line is drawn. It is moot. The MIL is moot. You have zero control. Support your wife. Play the outcomes in your head if you don't believe me. There's no honor in being the "I told you so" guy.

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The modern world is divided between those that would numb itself to its meaninglessness through various substances and various hedonisms and those that realize it and go crazy

That sucks Frank. Sorry to hear it.

Unless there is a danger presented to the child or you or your wife I don't know if you can unilaterally cut her out of the lives of your kid and wife. Obviously you could say no alone time or driving in the car but it would ultimately be a decision your wife would have to make on her own with your suggestion.

Obviously I can only go based on your description but for as much as it sucks for you it needs to be a group decision for the good of your immediate family.

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You do not talk to me like that! I work too hard to deal with this stuff! I work too hard! I'm an important member of the CSFMB! I drive a Dodge Stratus!

Does it matter? I just know when things are tough or you need a change , the advice here has always been to pick up and move

Staying here in the same town we currently live but will be just a few blocks from Lake Michigan in a home we both instantly fell in love with. Kind of a dream home if you will. Trying to get all the financing squared away and get our place ready to go on the market in a week. We had no real intention or expectation of moving when we went to look.

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Flew too close to the sun on wings of pastrami

Best of luck to you and Mrs. Bone.

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Sorry Frank, family issues of any kind are a pain in the ass. Nothing more than the closest in laws if they have issues. I have some advice even figuring some here will find that me giving it is funny.

25 years ago or whatever we had similar problems. We had to make a decision that we needed to reinforce that when two people get married there really is nothing else more important than those two and in your case now three people. The degree to which that goes obviously is case to case.

Be warned though to not just let things go. These seemingly assumed simple matters have ripped families apart.

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If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.

Great advice Nardi.

If she is putting your son in any danger Frank, then you should quietly demand hard and fast ground rules for any interaction with her.

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I'm sorry to hear about this, Frank. Support your wife even if it means just giving her space. She'll eventually figure out the right thing to do.

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Nas: Blago, who has single handedly destroyed CFMB?

Blago: https://youtube.com/shorts/Lftdxd-YXt8?feature=share

Mind you own damn business! -VP Walz

i can definitely relate to in-law issues, and my MIL is a really complicated mess of a person. but our problem is more siblings-related. my SIL is a spoiled brat, the baby of the family, and just added a husband who is a total divisive knob. we weren't invited to the wedding, but honestly i'm glad we weren't. i cannot stand to be around him anyway. and i certainly don't need to see some celebration in their name.

my wife's side just had a bit of a family reunion, a long-lost aunt that has recently come back into their lives and she thinks she can fix this problem herself. it's increasingly annoying. we haven't been around her family when her SIL/now-husband are around for over 2 years.

i would also agree that you gotta support your the mrs. but remain firm that you're concerned with the safety of the child first and foremost. multiple rehab visits indicate this person doesn't want help.

Look at 'ol T-Bone over there giving Douchebag the business!



This should be in the brag section.

Congrats, duder.

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Sex isn't dirty, sex isn't a crime. It's a loving act between two or more consenting adults.

-Hank Kingsley

She has other health issues and at this point is physically incapable of providing proper care for a 1 year old, so that we don't have to worry about that for now.

As angry as I am, I will turn to supporting my wife than anything else at this point. Some of these things I needed to hear. Thanks all.

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Society doesn't want to hear it right now, but women, more often than not, take their cue from the men they trust. Lead in a pragmatic way but make sure love is the point man.

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The modern world is divided between those that would numb itself to its meaninglessness through various substances and various hedonisms and those that realize it and go crazy

I am going to strangle the next dough-head I see wearing slides with socks

What does this mean in English?

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http://soundcloud.com/darkside124 HOF 2013, MM Champion 2014

KDdidit better watch his back.

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Krauts and Polacks breathe a sigh of relief. Socks with sandals don't offend TomPretty's sensibilities.

What if your feet are cold?

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If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.

To the best of my knowledge, wearing the socks over the sandals is still acceptable.

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I don't remember half the time if I'm hiding or I'm lost

Only wear the socks with slides on the way to and from softball games. I make some convenience store stops wearing them though to let my freak flag fly.

Do you run to CVS for snacks and drinks EVERY SINGLE DAY ?

If your feet are cold you wear shoes. If you are an athlete walking back from practice or a game you may wear slides with socks.

I agree with all of the above. I've been the told you so guy in the past. It's not a helpful position to assume. I've learned my lesson and try to be as supportive as I can. That's a challenge, though.

And Frank: Sorry to hear about your predicament.

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Sounds amazing. There are some great houses in your town, especially close to the lake. Would love to hear details about your new place.

I've decided that I greatly prefer Vermont to Massachusetts. I'm thinking about taking a job in Burlington, VT, in the next year or two before my kids get too attached to MA. Burlington is one of my favorite cities in the country, and it's not too far away from relatives that we need to be near for now.

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“Knock on wood if you’re with me.”

Oh ffs Gruden. I hope you go 0-16.

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Hawaii (fuck) You

Do it!!! Burlington was so beautiful. Our drove through Vermont was so enjoyable. So much outdoor beauty.

Moving to Burlington is great but can’t you do an intermediary move as well? I used to work a lot in the north burbs of Boston (Billerica, Burlington) and a lot of guys lived in the general Nashua area and Manchester was a half decent airport.

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If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.

You know what's better then spending the Saturday of Labor Day weekend at Urgent Care with a 103 temperature and strep throat? Anything up to and including a swift kick in the balls.

It has not been a fun week in the Coztansa house.

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Was it you or the little one? if it's you...buck up buttercup.

Me. This has kicked my ass.

Ill ask the nurse if they have the big recliner for my room while I wait

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