Nas wrote:
I don't have an issue with your take. I believe having more than limited experience should have you learn what you like and dislike.
There is guy talk and their is women talk. Both frequently celebrate things that we aren't and wouldn't want our kids to become.
I'm pretty sure these relationships are mutually beneficial. These older women aren't picking him out because he's hot, wealthy or husband material. They pick him out because he's funny and he's going to fuck them well. You could argue they are using him more than he's using them.
I'm confident women control the way men behave. If more women were attracted to "nice guys", you would see nearly the entire population transform overnight. MANY women prefer bad boys and projects due to their desire to fix things.
You don't need several partners and tons of meaningless sex to figure out what you like and dislike. I don't see how that would be good for anybody.
Why would people do or celebrate things they wouldn't want their kids to become? Lying to them is wrong and parents should be modeling the behavior publicly and privately they want for their kids. That's one of the most important jobs of the parent.
I don't see these relationships as beneficial, personally or for society. You can see the destruction it has caused over the last 20-30 years. He's not funny and sex or what feels good shouldn't be the basis of decision making. Even if it's good in that moment it's not long term I'd bet 90% of the time. I'd also bet if you asked most women and they were honest they'd scratch their past except for 2 maybe 3. Using anybody for sex for any reason isn't a good thing. It's gross they want that and that he goes along with it.
Most women are not trying to control anybody. We are trying to protect ourselves, we have the benefit of choice in that sense. I don't know what to call it maybe sexually aggressive behavior? we should be trying to curb in boy and not encouraging it for girls.
Women don't want some asshole that sleeps around and has one eye on other women at all times and we don't want a guy we don't respect and can walk all over either. I would say we want some one who is honorable and will help to take care of us and whatever that woman's individual needs are. I don't think that is too far off from what men want either.
Your idealistic world doesn't exist, Spaulding. It never will. That's because far too many women only desire what you want when they are beyond their prime. Men follow their lead.