first of all, love is good. love is kind. love is love. i love love. love loves love by loving love. we get it. now lets find 300 different more ways to say it because my priest agency pays me by the hour. ok fine, the ceremony was over an hour sitting in a stupid christian church. most notably, i did some research while i was there and found that america IS getting fatter. and uglier.

then comes the reception. like cattle on the block, get moovin because the catering/mc people obviously get paid to go home as soon as their done so here watch these two people cut cake now. eat this stuff now. dance now bitches. ok its midnight everyone MUST go home.

anyone been to a non traditional wedding? the kind where the bride n groom get married in their backyard or something and the reception is a real party that lasts all night long? where people have actual fun without awkward tension? these people who run these wedding events are so weird... why are they always weird people. i dont get this. every wedding is the same, only the luxury of the facility changes. how many times in my life am i going to have to experience this? theres a reason i dont ask you how you have been despite you forcing me to talk about my life. fuck this.

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This is why I usually only go to receptions, unless I have some reason I have to be at the wedding...

If the object is just to have close friends who also might better enjoy a backyard get-together wedding....great. But when you get married it's generally expected you might invite your parents, Aunts and Uncles, business associates and extended family. Will they all fit in your backyard? Will there be sufficient seating for that number of people? Plus, I think most people want to eat a decent meal, have a few drinks and dance. But again, for a smaller group of friends, a backyard get-together might work out fine. Never been to one though.

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Go Cubs!!!!

Open bar dude !!!

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Proud to be UNVERIFIED.

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Vegas.

Minus the horseback part.

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If you don't enjoy them then don't go?

If you don't want to talk about your life then ask them about theirs?

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"I honestly don't see a good bet on the board here."

Your wedding is what you make it.

We got married in a church and had a traditional reception, but we controlled what took place and when. No chicken dance, no long, drawn out speeches, no wacky DJ, just a short ceremony and a pretty damn fun reception with an open bar. No pressures, no drama, and it was a really memorable time.

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thats my idea of traditional tbh. what i meant when i posted this was the contemporary weddings i guess. where they hire a dj/catering crew and its all planned out to the quarter hour. this is when you all stand and drink, this is when you all sit and drink, this is when you eat, this is when you dance. this is when you leave. it reminds me of being in high school except the girls are wearing cocktail dresses.

sure, it all doesnt have THAT much effect on how the party goes, but at the same time there is no real sense of individuality to the night. all these coordinated weddings are the same. just usually different people who are in them. and you must constantly be wondering what you are supposed to do next, because you know everything on the night is already planned. its just a weird vibe i get, and its completely different when the reception is just an open bar/buffet and people just do whatever they want.

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the world will always the world. your entire existence is defined by your response.

my boss, a retirement age guy, told the story of his wedding- he and his girlfriend hosted a Halloween party for their friends, and showed up dressed as bride and groom. no one knew they were actually getting married that night, and the party ensued.

Ours, 21 years ago yesterday, was the last I have attended with a live band. Great local polka band, going so strong at midnight we paid for an extra hour since nearly everyone was still there. I am not sure I have enjoyed more than one or two receptions since then. Some we have left before 9pm to escape the WHO LIVE+10db deejay

My friend had one kinda non-traditional. First part standard church.Reception was in an outdoor art gallery with just hour-dourness and martinis. Very cool time. You where forced to move around and mingle.

Best wedding was my cousins. Signature room. Open bar through dinner(he knew his family well) String quarrtet for dinner music then DJ. The freaking well whiskey was Jack. They had everything.

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When I am stuck and need to figure something out I always remember the Immortal words of Socrates when he said:"I just drank what?"

We did the non-traditional and while I'm not going to bore you all with the details I will say that it was awesome, 45ish attended. San Diego, kegs and bombers of micro brew, beach house, roof top party/ocean beach bar crawl.

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That's my purse! I don't know you!

My cousin is going to have the Ric Flair theme as his song when he gets introduced @ the reception. I just hope he gets the robe to go w/ it.

Yep, not a fan of the carbon-copy, cookie-cutter weddings (yeah I know I doubled up on my descriptors there).

Not to get off onto a morbid track, but, I'm not a fan of carbon-copy, cookie-cutter funerals either.

My cousin got married out on her family farm in Missouri. She went barefoot in her very plain wedding dress. Very limited ceremony and the party lasted all night. There were haystacks for chairs and the horses and goats were watching from the pasture. Sort of a mixture between hillbilly, Southern, and country, with a dash of shitkicker and a pinch of hayseed.

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Back off, Warchild. Seriously.

Most of the weddings I have went to have been the tradtional, have the big wedding and then go to the reception and do all the stuff.

Did have 1 family member get married, I would say the non-traditional way where at the wedding it was real close family, probably about 20 people at the most, then they had the reception at some place that was like a park and you dressed Hawaiin.

Of course, I will say the traditional ones are still married and the non one, the Divorce attorney could have been in the Wedding photos.