Boilermaker Rick wrote:
No Clever Moniker wrote:
The $10,000 he paid as a fine? He wasn't the only player who didn't attend the Las Vegas trip and get assessed the fine, he was just the only one who felt compelled to write a check. The other player told Incognito to "fuck off."
I think you need to think this through again.
Why wasn't Martin in a position to tell Incognito to "fuck off"? It's because Incognito was making his life a living hell.
We aren't even arguing if Incognito severely bullied Martin. It seems that everyone thinks he did. Some just thinks he should have "just taken it" and he should have went to therapy. That is so messed up. You are getting bullied to the point where you have to go to therapy and it is his fault for not taking his bullying better.
Soon we'll be seeing "He shouldn't have dressed in a provactive manner".
Martin acknowledges having felt bullied his whole life, except for the fun times in college. Professional help would have given Martin the tools to manage and eventually put Incognito out of his life. He had the resources and the support system but he chose not to utilize them. In his own words and his exchanges with his parents its clear that he needed help but chose not to get it. If not Incognito it would be his wife, or business manager, or the barista at the corner Starbucks who would make sure that his latte was whole milk and not the soy he asked for.
If someone walks up to you and says "your momma" do you run and cry? Punch them in the mouth? Ignore them for being an asshole? Choosing the third option is what most normal people choose, and when it gets to be too much and the temptation is for one of the first two choices that's when you get help, either professionally or authoritatively. Getting help is not "just taking it" but developing the tools and abilities to either not let the situation get to him or to overcome. Martin's problems weren't just Incognito and while not being privileged to all of his electronic communications enough can be gleamed that he would have benefitted from help. A puppy wasn't going to make him stronger, grilling steaks with his psychiatrist wasn't going to help him.