Get your ass to the doctor. It's important to take charge of your health because if you don't, no one will do it for you. I'm selfish. I want to live and help my family going forward. Find a doctor that you can talk to as your prime physician. I have two great ones, one in Kaiser and one in the VA. Also, do your own research and when you talk to doctors be prepared to ask important questions and understand what they are saying. Good luck.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

Good for you!! I think of what is going on with me is just another battle. Don't ever give up.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

As a general message, if there are any veterans out there or you know friends or relatives who are veterans, mention to them to check on enrolling with the VA for medical care. They can quickly check with a local VA health center and enroll in the system is they are eligible and there are counsellors to help them navigate through the system.

There has been much bad publicity about the VA in the last ten years but a lot of that was blown out of proportion and a lot of bad things that were there are fixed. I've been helped greatly by the system in the last 20 years.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

IS there anyone else that he would talk to? Sometimes good friends can be very helpful to talk to about this stuff. Maybe sound out one or two of his buddies? Don't know if he is religious, but maybe a priest or minister?

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

Honestly not wanting to talk about things like that is really dumb assed on my part. Fortunately my wife and best friend have been been both open to talk and pushing me all the time. They’ve been godsends.

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There are only two examples of infinity: The universe and human stupidity and I'm not sure about the universe.

Men don't talk about a lot of health things, be it mental or physical, and it is to our detriment. I know Im mostly guilty of it myself beyond my wife. Everything is fine is a great answer, until its not.

women hate when men talk about health problems. they get mad when you try to hide it and then turned off when you talk about it.

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the world will always the world. your entire existence is defined by your response.

That isn't my experience. Maybe my age is talking.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

I'm with Ike. Same as the bitching about cable or your cell phone service.

I doubt I'm going to change this. I had surgery a couple of years ago and didn't tell anyone until I was out of surgery. Even though I knew I wasn't coming home the same day. I didn't want anyone to worry. I've already told my kids that if I know things are getting bad as I continue to age, I'm going to end it myself. I have no desire for anyone to have to wipe my ass for years or help me care for myself. I'm too prideful of a man for that. I need my independence.

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Be well

GO BEARS!!!

I cannot tell you how thankful I am that I was able to help care for my Dad in the last few days, and be with him that last few minutes of his life. He gave me so much, it was the least I could do for him. I got the feeling that my wife even appreciated the chance to help with his care.

Don't take that from your kids.

I go back and forth on this. Quality of life is essential to me but murdering myself is still murder. IF life is a gift, do I have the right to end it?

I think that is really selfish on your part not the other way around. Why deprive someone of a chance to help take care of you. Do you think that they are not going to "worry about you"? DO you think that maybe, just maybe, that they just might trade some moments of "caring" for you for maybe some advice on a problem that they have? Or even watching a baseball or football game together? Killing yourself is as awful as it gets. It certainly isn't "brave" whatsoever.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

Thanks Nas!

Thanks TEIA!

Thanks OTE!

Thanks Spaulding!

Sorry to hear about your FIL. Hope he can pull through but if not, I hope he's as comfortable as he can be during his decline.

They do an ultrasound test. I take a leak then they do the ultrasound and see what's left. But I was going 5-8 times a night so I knew I wasn't emptying. I also had a test where they put purified water into your bladder and they ask you when you can feel the urge to go. They are looking for an overactive bladder. The normal amount of urine that is held in the bladder when it signals that you have to go is between 250-350 mL (12 ounces is roughly 330 mL). And this test measures the flow rate of your urine. I could only empty about 200 mL but they saw that I had an overactive bladder where my bladder wasn't full but there were signals from my bladder to my brain saying that I had to take a leak. And my flow rate was weak.

The above was because my prostate was growing into my bladder, blocking off the sphincter and into the urethra and that caused the low volume and low flow rate. So by taking care of the cancer, I also got my nights back. Now, I go once a night, maybe twice and maybe none if I am sleeping really well.

This!

I have a friend who's around 54. He doesn't eat green veggies, never has and he has high cholesterol. when he was in his 40s, he took that cologuard at home test and it came back as a high potential for colon cancer. He still refused to get a colonoscopy. Saw him last year at Christmas and after hearing my story, he kind of relented and said he would get it done but I don't think he ever has. Will see him again in a couple of weeks and I'll check up to see if he got it. It's getting to the point that if they find something, it may be too late. I hope not but as you said, the more you keep putting it off...The treatment is harder and the chances of survival are worse.

Hope things are going well for you now, Hawk.

Thanks, I hope your treatments take care of yours, too!

You sure about that?

I was kind of like that until now. Now, I have no issues talking about my experience, even the embarrassing parts of the surgery, like the incontinence and ED. Guys who may go through this need to know what they are up against. And they need to know that they are not alone; many guys have already gone through it. I was lucky in that my uncle had his removed the old fashioned way 15 years ago so I could talk about it with him. Didn't ask him how long or if he had ED but we talked about all the other stuff so it helped put my mind at ease a bit.

Thanks.

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An Ode to the Texas man who shot an Antifa terrorist:

Oh, he might have went on livin'
But he made one fatal slip
When he tried to match the Ranger
With the big iron on his hip

Sadly two announcements today, both related to prostate cancer:

MLK's son Dexter dead at 62.
Ryne Sandburg (age 64) with Metastatic prostate cancer.

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"I honestly don't see a good bet on the board here."

RIP Ryan's sex life

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the world will always the world. your entire existence is defined by your response.

IT'S RYYYYYYYYYYYNNNNNNEEEEEEEE!!!!

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Elections have consequences.

RYNE RYNE RYNE, NOT RYAN!!!!

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"He is a loathsome, offensive brute
--yet I can't look away."